I think you're right. Being an as*hole makes you an as*hole.
At my house, we have me an unofficially dxed AS kid and my 16 year old son who is officially diagnosed. We've never looked at the AS as a reason to behave inappropriately. However, there are times when we behave inappropriately because of the AS. It's not an excuse.
I think that there is great responsiblity in having this label. In the midst of all of the issues associated with the AS, I think it's important to have a very finely tuned sense of humour. If you can't laugh at yourself, then you're doing it wrong. I'm the first one to jump up in the middle of a meltdown and say, "well, that was an autistic moment". I realise that my stuff looks weird to other people, but that's just the way I am. I'm not going to change (god forbid). I don't see any reason to be all abrasive and nasty about it. I find that being more accepting of who and what I am helps others to do the same.
I think you have a great idea! I would love to see this when you get it done. Do us justice and don't screw it up. LOL.
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"All those things that you taught me to fear
I've got them in my garden now
And you're not welcome here" ---Poe