Do you hate questions?

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Even when the person asking means well? I personally hate when someone asks how my day or weeked has been. I also hate asking those types of questions. It pains me so much that sometimes I resort to ignoring my boyfriend when he asks.

(I realize the irony of the subject title.)

I used to not know how or not want to answer those questions but I'm getting better at it. Sometimes when not in the mood I really hate being asked anything. Overall I don't think I'm that bothered by it.

The questions I hate most are when someone asks "huh?" or similar without clarifying what specifically they are trying to ask about. This can send me on the road to meltdown because I simply cannot interpret what they're asking unless they're responding to a fairly simple statement with a single element to it.

This is more likely to happen in chat or asynchronous communication, where I can write more than I'd normally say.

Not really knowing the context in which these questions were asked, I really can't comment. But in general, I have found that when people ask questions such as this, they are really just saying hello. They don't actually want to know how was your weekend went or whatever other meaningless question they ask; they are actually looking for a response such as "great man, how was yours"? Then once that initial exchange is made, they may then ask a more personalized question.

I'm ok with them, unless the person keeps asking when I've already given an "I don't know" answer.

OP: why do you hate them?

I don't mind those questions. The type of question that I don't like is, "Are you ret*d?" No. I'm not ret*d, I'm a Mod. I like the 60s.

On most days, and with strangers, I can pull off small talk. But when I get in certain moods, I easily hate those types of questions. The questions are specific and the person asking is genuinely interested. But when I'm not ready to talk, I feel more compelled to bluntly say, "I don't really feel like talking." I feel like a jerk when I say things like that, but it honestly almost kills me to answer the questions just as much. I was wondering if anyone felt the same.

Yes, I hate being questioned.

Oddly enough, if I'm in the right mood, I might volunteer the information but questioning makes me close up.

I hate being asked questions repeatedly. It starts to frustrate me.

I'm OK with them most of the time. I only hate it when I go see my doctor and she always ask "How are you?" Well what am I supposed to say? If I'm "fine" I wouldn't be there to see her, would I?

I usually say "not too bad". That's enough to make most people realize they should drop it, or they might hear about my problems.

Now, if it's a "real" question like they'd like to know about something and asking me, I don't mind at all.

It annoys me. The common one I get is "hey how's it going?" It's a pointless thing to say. Most of the time I don't even respond, I just smile mechanically. Checkouts at supermarkets are classic for stupid, socially confirming pointless words. You get there and they say "hi how are you?" (Doesn't that drive them nuts 50,000 customers a day?) but they aren't actually asking for information, so the exchange is redundant. You pay the bill and they say "have a nice day" which is such an incredibly stupid thing to say I'm dying to get it printed on a t-shirt. I hate questions, and obviously I hate small talk. Pointless talking in general rubs my fur backwards.
My pet hate at the moment, though, is personal questions. I don't know if it's because of facebook, but people seem suddenly to think they have the right to ask you the most intrusive, personal questions that are none of their business. It seems the concept of privacy is foreign to modern consciousness. Just random people at work who I don't know from a bar of soap start asking me where I live, who I live with, why I wanted to be in the job, if I have a boyfriend, how long have I been with him, what I do in my spare time, when I'm planning to move house, etc etc etc. I hate being scrutinized like that and actually find the very asking offensive.

Yes, I hate this, too.

When people ask, "How ya' doin'?" or "How's it goin'?" I have my stock answers.

"I'm DOIN'."

"It's goin'."

It amuses many people, but annoys some others.

I hate the whole store banter thing to the point that I actually PREFER to use the self-serve checkout! I just don't get it - it's POINTLESS. Whether my day is going GREAT or SH!++Y, the other person REALLY doesn't wanna hear he explicit details of it - especially when the store is crowded and that person has to meet a quota of Items scanned per minute!

COME on!

I don't mind, "How are you?" and, "What's up?" I interpret those as greetings. My response is, "Good" or, "Not much" followed by, "How about you?" It's a bit wordy for a greeting, but I don't find it annoying. I also don't mind very specific questions, like, "What did you eat for breakfast this morning?" or, "Where do your parents live?"

The questions that make me uncomfortable are what I would call "big" or unanswerable questions, the sort of questions you might be asked to write an essay on. Two examples of questions I've been asked this week that made me squirm are, "Have you always been modest?" and "What was it like having two older brothers?"

If you suspect that people might hate being questioned, it's probably unwise to ask them about it.

Actually, I hate all communication that isn't scripted. I know, I know, if it's scripted it isn't communication, but putting that aside for a moment, I'm okay with rote questions because they get rote answers. What I hate is real questions because (1) they induce immediate brainfreeze and (2) when it thaws I feel seriously compromised, like the questioner is trying to take away something that until now has been in my sole possession. I may decide they're entitled, but honestly, it's so fraught with anxiety, I'd much prefer to just pop off a rote answer. (Which I guess is ...munication.)