Question for Aspies experienced with being among other Aspie

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Do you feel as socially inept among other Aspies — in situations where you're with at least several — as you normally do among NT's; or is it different to any degree?

I've never met any real aspies, so I can't say.

I feel uncomfortable around large numbers of other people in general.

However, I seem to do better in smaller social situations with Aspies and Auties than NTs.

The last two guys I've dated were both auties- still good friends with them both- and my current boyfriend, while not professionally diagnosed, I'm very sure has AS. Various members of my family, which has a pretty high percentage professionally diagnosed AS, are also easier for me to understand and connect to than. . . say. . . most of the (very social and socially adept) people who (ballroom) dance where I do.

I feel like I can carry on a conversation more with certain topics. Not sure if those people were AS. I have met others that were AS and when speaking to them, I felt more comfortable.

I work with another aspie and I am very comfortable talking to her. We have a lot of the same interests (and difficulties), so we always have good conversations. I'm going to the local Aspie meetup group tomorrow night where I'll be around a larger crowd of them, so I'll let you know how that goes

Here is the website for anyone in the Austin area who is interested: http://www.aspiesofaustin.com

As far as I know, I haven't met other Aspies.

I have a half-cousin with HFA, and I have three friends with AS, one of them being a former girlfriend. My experiences have been quite good with all of them.

Tim

Yes, having been around other aspies I can say that it has been a good thing. I quote myself from two + years ago

It depends. If it's just a standard social gathering, then yes. But, if we're talking about something specific, then no.

I would like to meet some aspies just to observe their mannerisms and speech versus my own.

I go to a school where only diagnosed aspies are allowed.
At the moment all I can think of is that I feel as socially inept around them as around NTs. If I think of something that is different, however, I will make sure to say.

And this would also depend on the extent that one has AS. I am a diagnosed Aspie, but with a lot of NT traits. There might be a major difference between me and someone who is deeper in the spectrum.

Tim

Yeah I've been in group of Aspies and found it very uncomfortable. I felt lost, alone, awkward, bored, scared and uncomfortable all at once. I don't generally feel that way around NT's. If I am in a group of NT's with a couple other AS around I will sometimes feel mentally "close" to the Aspie female or in the case of two of the AS guys at work feel very repulsed by their presence. Don't ask me I can't explain it!

I used to feel comfortable with other aspies because I thought they would all be nice to me and treat me with respect but boy am I wrong. Aspies can be mean and jerks and can be bullies, they can treat you bad or get mad at you if you say something inappropriate and didn't even know it. After all they are humans too, not different creatures. Being with a group of aspies is just like being with a group of people, NT or not. They can still have the same reactions to something like an NT would.
When I went to the aspie barbecue back in August, I didn't socialize much. I just sat and watched South Park on my Dad's laptop while other aspies were chatting and looking at each other as they were talking.

I have met loads of people with Autism/AS in total I have met 15 People that I know they have got it and there are others but I know they have been diagnosed with something they have not told me. The truth is I have had a mix as well with experience some of them I have met and I got on really well with them and I have also met a few aspies who I don't like and end up clashing with them or always ending up in some sort of argument.

I'll mention some of my expeirences school for example we all tried to get on with each as we were all in more or less the same situation there were two other people in my year and we were pretty much in the same class for everything. There were various people in other years as well.

After I left school I have met a few other people there was only one I didn't get on with reason why he liked being the boss even though he wasn't and I don't like being bossed around at all it really annoys me but all the other I have got on really well.

It is the same with NTs some you meet you like some you don't like.

I wish I could share some of the experiences I have with other aspies but I will be here all day and all night.