Which is worse?

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Which bothers you more:

People not turning up when they say they will

OR

People dropping in to see you unexpectedly.

The latter is more bothersome to me.

Both are equally bad for me.

Different dimensions, same severity.

I read the first one and was sure that was it, I hate being stood up. Then I read the other option. Oh my, I hate that with a passion too.

Good thing both was an option

I like to see people but on my terms so am upset when they don't come and don't know how to react when they do...

people unexpectedly IS a problem, BUT not half as much as not being there when said would be. THAT does my head in. I can't bear unpunctuality.

A lack of congruency between word and deed has always bothered me. Fortunately, as I grow and become more accepting, it bothers me less.

The one dat pisses me of is whenever i try 2 meet up wid m8s of mine dey say dey will come but dey never turn up n i always tell dem if ur not comin give me a call or txt so dat i know if ur comin or not.

Both are equally bad. People not honoring their commitments is bad. People dropping in unexpectedly-and staying practically forever-the two seem to go hand in hand, is annoying. It takes forever to get their butts unstuck from the seat and to get them out the door.

To be honest, people don't drop by to see me...ever. So I voted for the former. I also hate people being ridiculously late. My dad used to do it a lot when I was a kid and then a couple of friends made promises to meet me that they didn't keep. And then they don't even apologise.

Much easier to have no friends!

I love having people just drop in on me, unless I'm doing something important; shakes up the day for me because I spend so much time alone. As for not show, and--worse--not calling, that just upsets me because I plan my whole day around it. I've learned not to count on nothing happening, which is why I don't mind the latter of the two options.

I suppose my vote (the top one) is the most NT.

I hate them both and I also hate that people don't seem to understand that it is a problem.

I accepted the fact that a few people can be late for one reason or another without being able to help that. Being late every signle time is kind of rediculess though. I voted the 'dropps in unexpected', because it's so rude and selfish. If there isn't an emergancy, give a person time to fix things up for you and get ready if you could.

My grandfather dropped in unexpectidly to someone's place on purpose once, and I can't really blame them for being angry at him. After all, he was the only one that made plans.

I once had another friend who was sick with the flue, and some super JERK decided to enter their property uninvited and plant his $% tent on their freshly done grass. (yes, he messed up alot of it to. The nerve.) In that area grass is extremly hard to grow and keep healthy because the climate is pretty dry. That ars even got mad at her for not fixing his lazy butt a sandwitch!

I say they should have called the police to get him removed. Being a member of the same church congregation is certainly no excuse to be that stupid, in my oppinion.

We have a neighbor who randomly comes by and enters without knocking.
He just did it again today.
I thought the front door was locked, but it might have been unlocked for the plumber who I am waiting for...and who I hope will show up.

I can't stand this particular neighbor.
That is not the only problem I have with him.
He drives me crazy and he is a compulsive liar.

He always tries to be "helpful" but there is this creepy vibe and sense of entitlement he has that makes me freeze up around him....and then he preys upon the fact that I am intimidated by him.