Problems getting what you want to say across...?

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Ugh, i think my biggest problem ever is trying to get the words to come out of my mouth right, i always either stutter, stammer, slur, or just draw blanks constantly. My thoughts are always scattered, my mind is either racing too fast, or theres no thoughts in my head at all. Like today i wanted a schedule for my gym so i can kickbox again, and when i went to ask, nothing was coming out right, i had to work extra hard to just get the words "gym thing paper", then i usually get the "what, i can't understand you" look, the only look that is actually familiar to me, considering i get it all the time. Eventually i had to point it out to her, everybody just thinks im shy, but i literally can't express what i want to say half the time it sucks! I get so frustrated at the end of the day because i can't express myself verbally even still at the age of 22, and it drives me nuts. Anybody else have problems getting what thye want to say across?

Yes, it's why I prefer to not talk. I do much better with written communication.

Between stuttering, mumbling, drawing blanks, and thinking other people can read my mind talking can be quite an adventure at times. Which is why, like Belle77, written communication is much easier for me!

Yes i agree with both of u, its soo much easier to type or write down what i need to say, verbally im a wreck!

once i get out of my lease ill be able to comminicate

I don't so much have trouble saying things but what I say will come across completely wrong - the amount of times I've managed to insult my girlfriend without meaning to are countless. Thankfully now it's a case of - "did you mean to say it like that, because it came across like..." etc. So things can be cleared up without hard feelings.

Oh, I hear you loud and clear on this one! It always seems as though I am coming across wrong and the ensuing meaningless tiffs are horrible!

I suffer from many communication problems because I stupidly and lazily assume that people will understand large and complex whys behind the things I say that I leave unsaid. This leads to misinterpretations galore, and has caused me no end of grief. I seem to operate on a much different set of working assumptions than more typical humans generally use. This problem plagues me in both written and verbal communications.

In general, I find human language to be cumbersome and imprecise; oddly, I still enjoy playing with it despite this fact. But to play is not quite the same thing as to communicate, even though both are mixed up in my writings.

Please, someone, read me mind, won't you? Free me from my mental isolation; I often feel like nobody has ever really known me, just shadows and reflections of me; who I am is simply not accessible via human language...

Good fortune,

- Icarus yearns for teeps...

I'm in the communications field so I'm generally pretty ok... but only because I have strategies to cope.

I have to ring people all the time at work, like strangers and people I barely know (or I do know but don't recognise the names, I only really recognise faces). So before I make a call I have to rehearse the script in my head for a few minutes, plan what I'm going to say when they pick up, plan how I'm going to explain what the call is about and what I'll say, take deep breaths, and THEN make the call. I don't know if my work colleagues have noticed or not, but I cannot make a call right when they ask me to... I hate phones with a passion, if I don't get time to rehearse my script and calm myself I end up stuttering and stammering and confusing people on the other end so much the calls take forever.

I also assume people know what I'm calling about so don't tell them, and then they get confused too. Hahaha.


I also find that when I'm telling a story I always really annoy people because I never get right to the point, I explain background that's necessary for the story but that people don't care about. So by the time I get to the point nobody's really listening... I find it really hurtful sometimes and I do make an effort to cut them down now but it still doesn't quite work. I ramble way too much.

I fully understand the phone thing. I personally don't even own a mobile phone at the moment and no-one I know has the house number. Nicola (girlfriend) is getting me a mobile for xmas and I can see only about 5 people getting the number to it.

Yes! I don't like to talk for all of the above reasons, and my voice is weak. I feel like I'm shouting in the attempt to be heard.

I wish I could communicate telepathically, with meanings, pictures, and feeling rather than with words. So that there would be no misunderstandings as they wouldn't need to interpret what I say in their head. It would all be laid out for them and in a fraction of the time it takes to talk. Talking is so cumbersome, even when you do get it right.

Um...er...I mean, it is difficult, you know...I mean, I can't...actually it's easier to...um...yeah, it is.

It happened to me a couple of times today. I had trouble coming up with the words for incredibly simple things.

I have troubles with certain letters. I never had any kind of speech therapy, but I think that I could have used it. I used to have problems with the letter "s," and my dad used to make me say that stupid, "She sells seashells by the seashore" crap over and over again.

Now my problem is more with L's and R's. Unfortunately, my first name has one of each. And my mother wonders why I go by my nickname more often than not.

Plus, I'm constantly losing nouns.

Mmhmm.

If I could cut, paste, edit, correct grammar and punctuation, insert emoticons as words were leaving my mouth (but before anyone could hear them) I'd be dangerous..

I either use short phrases, or develop something I call 'verbal runs', where I just can't stop my mouth.. I watch the eyes slowly glaze over, waiting for me to inhale, so they can run right over my train of thought...