Are you easily influenced by peers?

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Since we aspies are lacking abit in the 'social' department, could it be that we are not as easily influenced by peers as neurotypicals? Unbelievably headstrong? I know I am!

I'm only easily influenced by people I really care about being friends with or people I really care about. No one else can talk talk me into anything, though.

I was easily led, when I was younger, only because I would be intrigued as to how it would turn out. I had no sense of danger, nor could I tell when someone was up to no good. Now, although I haven't changed much, I am more cautious and aware of possible patterns of outcome, based upon past experiences.

I can't seem to find that middle ground that most people seem to achieve in this area. I either let people push me around or I resist stubbornly.

I can't ever remember being swayed to do anything I wouldnt have done in the first place. I'm extremely stubborn and not really influenced by the things other people would like me to do. If they can't handle that I dont want to, then they probably arent the friends for me.

No.

When younger I wanted to learn so was easily swayed by often the wrong people and having no sense of real danger, it got me into lots of trouble. Do not get me wrong as also could be very stubborn, but I guess did not have any great set of friends / peers, and I often would take the more exciting path, well to me anyway..

But I grew up and really had to learn the hard way, took far to long.....

Do feel early teens to late twenties is a really difficult time for most people on the spectrum and still feel no where near enough is done for them.

Lots of parents / child and adult groups. But the age when people on the spectrum can be most effected, they seem to be left out of the groups - in between some where.

And this is often the time when these youngest discover for themselves they are on the spectrum, it really can be hell for some of these youngest, so its great that there are forums like this one and I,m not trying to get brownie points! I really mean it...

I'm not easily swayed.

I used to be VERY headstrong. NOT so much now. I have NEVER succumbed to "peer pressure" though.

I picked oak. But it does come with qualification...

If the swaying attempt is just "oh, c'mon!" then absolutely no chance in hell.

However if it is reasoned attempt to bring information that I had not already considered to my attention, and I judge that new information to be acceptable enough to change my earlier opinion then... you could say I am easily swayed.

But no amount of begging or pleading or emotional blackmail would get me to do something I would not chose to do otherwise.

I never really succumbed to peer pressure, but I was easily lied to by NT's... and I would believe it, as I had little concept of lying...

No. I only do things if I want to, I'm not easily pressured.

If I don't want to do something I won't do it. If the request is reasonable sure I'll go with the flow. But if I'm uncomfortable with something I resist at the very least. Never been one for pop culture, mostly because i know nothing about it. My YOUNGER siblings know things and say things that go way over my head sometimes and even my mom will know what they are saying, and I'm too embarassed to ask what it means for fear of sounding stupid. I have friends, I don't watch MTV but how does this stuff elude me I don't get it!

I used to be easily pressured but not anymore. People can't get a drop of alcohol into me if I don't want them to.

Will u guys stop been so negative about social communication.... RESEARCH into Introverts...... then decide your communicating with each other....

There are reasons why introverts sometimes feel so alien as if our spacecraft landed on the wrong planet & are so often misunderstood. Introverts reveal less of themselves & their actions; they can appear aloof & mysterious. And as we’ve seen, many societies extol the virtues of extraversion, & many extraverts cast a dubious eye on the gifts introverts bring to the world. Sadly, often we don’t even comprehend our own contributions.
Let’s look at some of the qualities of introverts that might contribute to extroverts suspicions. As you look over this list, remember that introverts can be even more confusing; as their energy ebbs & flows, they may not appear consistent. One day their batteries may be well charged & they’re chatty & outgoing. Another day they are dragging their wagon & can barely talk at all. This can confuse & confound the people who know them.
Introverts are more likely to:

Keep energy inside, making it difficult for others to know them.
Be absorbed in thought.
Hesitate before speaking.
Avoid crowds & seek quiet.
Lose sight of what others are doing.
Proceed cautiously in meeting people & participate only in selected activities.

Not offer ideas freely; may need to be asked their opinion.
Get agitated without enough time alone or undisturbed.
Reflect & act in a careful way.
Not show much facial expression or reaction.

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Introversion: This is a healthy capacity to tune into your inner world. It is a constructive & creative quality that is found in many independent thinkers whose contributions have enriched the world. Introverts have social skills, they like people, & they enjoy some types of socializing. However, party chitchat depletes their energy while giving them little in return. Introverts enjoy one – on – one conversations, but group activities can be over stimulating & drain energy.

Highly sensitive: These are people who are born with a certain cluster of traits that is often described as a sixth sense. They are extremely perceptive, intuitive, & observant, with finer discrimination than most of us. They may stay away from social engagements because they dread the agonizing flooding of their senses.

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