Is keeping a commitment really hard for aspies/auties?

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I feel stood up by an aspie. I get a myspace message from him two days ago telling me he like to come over the next day, give him my address if it's okay, so I do that and tell him I am still on the same busline and I am near two other bus lines now and tell them what they are. I even asked if he still had my number and sent the message. I never heard back so the next day I wait for him to come and I try calling him but keep getting his voice inbox so finally after two I send him a myspace message telling him he never showed up and since he never did, I'm just going to go out and Christmas shop and I would really like it if he respond to my messages so I know when he is coming because it drives me crazy to not know and I can't stay in my apartment all day wasting my whole day off waiting for him to come and he never does so next time he doesn't respond, I would just go ahead with my plans for my day because I will not waste my day off waiting for him to him and decides to not show up and I would have liked it if he told me if he was coming or not so I'd know and not be hanging if he knows what I mean by that.

I told my boyfriend about it and he told me his friend told him aspies have troubles meeting people and keeping their commitments.
But we have met before and he has showed up before in the past after saying he like to come over. What gives

Maybe something unexpected happened. He could be sick or someone in his family could be sick. I would give him a chance to explain.

Sometimes anticipation over something I've committed to, even if it's something positive, makes me painfully anxious.

Aspies generally don't have too much trouble keeping commitments (unless they get scared etc). In fact, I'd have thought we'd be better than NTs in that regard if the commitment is "a rule".

Where we fall down is in our sense of time and remembering dates etc..

But this is a big generalization and may not be true for others.

I think relashionships of all sorts are difficult. They just don't work.

I've never had to go and meet someone.

I did once
scared the f**k outta me
was from online too
didn't work out so good...but at least I did