Reading body language and Thoughts

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How well do you think you can read body language and other peoples thoughts?

They say that many aspies have this problem and I want to know to what degree it affects (effects'?) your life?

I just found out that i am A walking mess of akward questions and comments. I just say stuff thinking that it's not that bad when it is. And I never knew that the person was 'uncomfertable' with what I just said. And I told my other friend what I said to that person and he just laughed saying that "You shouldn't say stuff like that because it will make him uncomfertable." And I couldn't tell that he was~! I didn't know!

I mean, to me, I feel that if there's a question or comment that I'm not sure is okay to say. I'll say it just so I can see how the other person will react to it. That's really how I get to know the other person and try to find that invisable line of "don't say that to me ever agian-ness"and never cross it again.

And I'm just really nieve to some stuff like jealusy. My mom and I were watching SNL the other day and it was that skit with molly shanen and some singer. And Molly was looking at the singer and my mom said "Oh, she's so jealus." And I didn't know that! I would have gone my intire life and would have never known that unless someone told me!!

I don't know, It's hard to explain. Maybe that's why my life is so....not in depth?

But to all you other aspies out there, How well can you read body language and other peoples thoughts.

I use another sense. I can't trust body language and there are so many of these so called experts that go on the news to claim that someone is lying because of their body language even though it turns out that the people were actually innocent.

So here you have these body language gurus who make innocent people look guilty. Then you also have people who try to claim that even someone's eyebrow shape suggests what kind of person someone is.

If I'm not feeling sharp that day, I don't pick up on much at all though. It could be better that way and perhaps subconsciously, I need to avoid that person anyway.

Our world is still the animal kingdom except we've replaced running and hunting down our prey with manipulating mind tactics and social skills. Some people run around with their social spears and their business suit jungle skirts targetting and shooting people with their social hunting arrows.

I cannot read body language or guess thoughts unless they are completely obvious, like crossed arms or if someone starts crying. When I say something inappropriate, or that's TMI, I don't notice until well after the person has left or hung up the phone when I go over it in my head. I'll think, "WHY did I say that?!" or, "I wonder if they took it the wrong way?" and then immediately panic and obsess and think of ways to contact them to fix it. I do that, and then they are not receptive to it. Honestly, I am not really thinking of them when I look at them and talk. I just talk.

I'm not sure how good I am. I can pick up on some of it.

I used to think I could read it but after reading about Aspergers, I hardly ever see body language but no my shrink told me it's everywhere and people use it everyday. You are also supposed to read their minds too and I have always been told by my mother you have to tell people what you are thinking and how you are feeling because no one can read your mind. Or is she bad at reading it too or was she naive not realizing society has changed. My mother did grow up in the 50's when people were more direct. If you were boring someone, or bothering someone, getting on someone's nerves, etc. they told you so, now today they don't anymore. I didn't know social skills were different back in those days until I read about it in a book written by Temple Grandin and someone else but I don't remember his name.


But then I realize I can't pick up on it very well just by what my former shrink told me, and what my family told me and other people and I didn't realize that's how people were feeling. Plus I am always asking people "How do you know?" when they tell me how I was making a person feel.

In reality if all this junk was true all the time, people would not get coned, be able to get lied to, deceived, took advantage of, so on, body language is good & all when the signal gets out, but they can still be wrong.

As when they were doing a show on what it takes to make one of them reality shows, they interviewed the people & they made a mistake on 1 of them, & changed they mind & picked him to be in it... So basically, body language failed, tone of voice, guessing his personality, & judging what type of person he was & 3 people were choosing them.

Like the cop act to con someone into giving they car keys to officers, they say humans have a automatic response to these people to give them the keys & not question. Me personally I would tell them where to shove they bs, & call it in & order a unit onto them, while the CCTV network is tracking it.

Generally I read it very well. But then I studied it for a long time.

Can't read minds, however... Since I'm watching their body language and I know, generally, how most NT's think and I think pretty fast, I get accused of reading minds all the time, or used to. In other words, I can tell very often what's going to come out of their mouth before they do. Like playing chess, I'm thinking X number moves a head of them. I'm not correct all the time, but most people don't remember when you're wrong, because they get spooked when they think you're in their head. I can even do it when not in a conversation, just by knowing what we talked about last and what most likely will be on their mind to begin with. And sometimes by just watching what someone has been doing and their reactions. It used to freak the wife out when we were first got together. She's hip to it now, it doesn't work and I should have lied to her and told her I do read minds.

It's when I snap to a judgement about what's going to come out of a persons mouth and they blindside me with something totally different that I really start to pay attention. They ain't normal and I like people a bit more that aren't too damn normal. That's when the game gets interesting.