Do you think your AS attracts negative people or give off...

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Do you think your AS attracts negative people or give off a negative energy? I have been looking back at my past experiences with people I have had to deal with growing up today. I have noticed how most of the times I have been attacked, tormented, or mistreated I have been sitting there doing nothing to anyone. I was either reading a book, doing homework, or as an adult working quietly by myself. What is the cause these attacks against me? I could understand when I was younger I was awkward and smaller than my bullies. Now as an adult I am bigger than most people and I believe I hide my awkwardness quite well and still get messed with except now from a distance or from a moving car (The Cowards ) How do they pick up my weirdness from a moving car, I do not see other people walking on the same sidewalk as me get cat calls from moving vehicles how do they know that they are NT?

Insane street people seem to pick up on my autsim its the same with mean drunks. Do I give off some type of pheremone or mental energy that causes me to get messed with? When I was in the army and made a squad leader the guys I was put in charge of refused to take orders from me their only reason was they did not like me but when questioned why they could not explain in words why they did not like me. I even had the most liberal of teachers who witnessed me getting tormented thought what was being said or done to me absolutely hysterical. When working in groups of other people I always managed to get pushed to the back or I start giving ideas towards what we are doing then it gets ignored. Then a half an hour or so someone would say exactly what I just said and they get the credit for it.

I am the only one experiences these things or is it universally happening with all people with Aspergers?

This is my experience too, although I would say it's more in the area of relationships than on the street. Some people are drawn to me as if I am a magnet, they make out I am just so fantastic, but they always turn out to be bullies or creeps. My husband has noticed it too.

I'm sure it's some kind of vibe we give off.

Once I read about someone asking their therapist if they would always attract such people, and they said, yes you will, but you will get quicker and quicker at realising and putting a stop to it. This has turned out to be true for me. I just don't respond to their stupid games or flattery and they give up and go away.

Nice people don't behave like that, and there are some, but they are very hard to get to know when I am covered in prickles

Yes, I think I give off some sort of weird vibe. Even when I use the correct words and gestures, people don't open up to my or express an interest in me. I think they can sense that my correct words and gestures aren't natural. Or maybe they can tell I'm not fully comfortable around them.

I've always wondered this. All throughout elementary school, jr. high, and high school, I've been bullied and tormented, for one reason or another. I've come to this conclusion: The neurotypical expel what they cannot understand. When I was in elementary school the other girls would ask me why I wore such boy-ish clothes, and I had no answer. When they asked me why I ate my lunch quietly secluded from other kids, I had no answer. Therefore they had no other choice than to hate it. I even have that problem - hating what I cannot perceive.
Even as adults NT do this. They can't put a "price tag" (so to speak) on someone, therefore they're not normal or weird, therefore it's okay to be disrespectful toward them.
I don't know about the street yelling thing, I mean I get that too but it's mostly because I'm a woman..

I think it's best to pity those whom have to turn confusion into anger and hatefulness. Reciprocate their negative energy with positive energy.

I think it is not so much a negative as an "awkward energy" because I've met both positive & negative awkward people. But I'd say 99.9% of the people I attract fall under some level or type of awkwardness.

I constantly attract people who are users or bullies.

I've heard these story so many times and I also had situations like these in my past.

Just giving off the 'wrong' vibe gets those who are receptent to this, aware or unaware an urge to act upon it. I can see now why people do this, it mainly has to do how you come across emotionally set to the background of the atmosphere present.
To illustrate by metaphore: a church quire sings in harmony and a person walks up to the quire and starts singing out of rhythm distorting the entire song - the person is disharmonizing and this isn't taken for granted, how severe this is retaliated depends on the social acceptable and the individual states of being people are in. Not everyone retaliates, but the onset of the urge is ever present - it's a reactive action, call it a emotional reflex.

Not everyone even is aware of this reflex, some people don't have that reactive part - autism or not, it's not as strong in all people -->It has to do with the measure of suppression by the neocortex of the emotional reactions (voluntary or involutary) (sorry can't find (a) proper link(s). Try neocortex for rationale, autonomic nervous system for reactive parts, limbic system for emotions and feelings, mirror neurons for empathic ability).

Cheerfully,
Wallourdes

In my experience, I believe that a lot of my difficulties growing up came from taking people at face value, viewing situations literally, and simply being gullible. I truly believed that all people wanted to be honest like I did, that they wanted to always treat others with respect, and that they would never try to trick you. Sometimes, I still fall into these traps, but I have become much more weary of people over time. I still have difficulty believing that someone wouldn't be good at heart and discerning when someone is deliberately attempting to be mean, but at least I rarely get close enough now to fall prey to it often.