NeantHumain wrote:
People often have vastly different goals in life and vastly different attitudes towards the same things; such is personality. Some people value solitude and plenty of time to think; some people value harmonious relationships; some people crave excitement and don't care about anything deep. Many relationship conflicts are the result of different personality styles—that is, different attitudes, values, occupations, and temperaments.
What I want most in my life is to meet a woman to love and to love me. This woman would be highly sympathetic and thoughtful, kind, friendly and open, cheerful and upbeat, willing to cooperate with me in rough times and great times too. You know, someone I could talk to when I'm down, someone who will come to me too, two people who will function as one to be better together than apart. Someone who enjoys intellectual and creative activities and physical recreation. Someone I could just hang out with and enjoy talking to and go out and, say, bike ride or play tennis with one day; go visit a museum another day; go out to eat a third; relax and just enjoy each other's company a fourth. I'd like someone who would accept and love me unconditionally despite my personality quirks, and I'd do the same. I'd like someone I could talk to about anything completely openly. We could relate well.
I'm always seeking to maximize my happiness and enjoyment. I hate to be in an irritable, complainy mood where I'm coming up with the worst outcomes for everything. I seek out happiness by trying to enjoy my life: games, conversation, intellectual discussion, randomness.
Harmonious relationships. I want everyone to get along and cooperate for the betterment of all. I hate to see people disagree. I hate people to be angry at me. Ideally, there'd be no wars and the worst disagreements would be like at a debate club. I sometimes get a little "rascally," but I rarely mean to cause serious offense although sometimes I do not think about how much worse other people might take something than me.
THE UNEXPECTED. Yeah, I expect it! I want it! I'll say the unexpected even. I'm not a fan of too much repetition.
I like to point out the illogicities of customs. I like satire. I take all tradition with a grain of salt. I like to be independent. I'm not very reverent about doing things because that's how they've always been done. I have no scruples about breaking an established custom because it's not right or nothing more than an inconvenience without any good.
Some advice form someone who's seen disaster: don't make getting a woman your
most important goal if you can at all avoid it; it's a nice goal but soemthing that is other-person dependant. If it doesn't happen for you and you feel like it should or should have, don't get too upset about it or you could wind up with the first person who ever shows an interest in you. ((Believe me, I've seen it lead to bad relationships.))
What I want most in life is to become a therapist/counselor. I want to make a difference in the lives of a few people. Not the world, I'm not going to delude myself there, but I do think I can sincerely make the lives of a few people better. It's an attainable goal.
I do admit I want to make enough money to keep the standard of living I have now, but of course without parental support. Not posh but not deprived. It's not great to know that that is high on my list of priorities but it is, and it is attainable.
My pipe dream is to be published someday, and not self-publication (though I bet I wind up resorting to it). I dont' want to write a great novel that is critically acclaimed; I'll settle for a crappy novel that never makes it to hardcover. Heck I'll settle for a publication in a magazine that pays in contributor's copes (my current pursuit).