Would like to have friends/more friends?

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At the present time I have no friends and just a few acquaintances at work. There are a few persons I talk to online every now and then.

A few years ago I did not care about not having friends, but now it might be starting to get to me.

I think I'd like to have friends, but they have to be like-minded individuals who will like me the way I am. Now if having friends means I have to put on a show, my social life can continue the way it is.

I'd like to have them (thanks to them I'd have more occasions to communicate more often with the world) but I'm afraid they would like me to go outside more while I don't like it. There are 4 girls from my school about whom I can say I've palled up with, another girl who used to be in the same class what myself when we were attending high school (now we contact rarely) and my cousin who is 7 years younger than I and it's everything, speaking of the friends of mine. I'd like to meet somebody with AS.

I'd like to have more friends, but I can't find many people who are sympathetic or whom I can relate to.

I have only 1 friend n 1 friend is never enough so i would like 2 have a few more so dat i can hang around wid different friends once in a wk instead of every 2-3 wks.

I'd like to have more friends.


-SpaceCase

OF COURSE! It would be REAL nice to have some REAL friends. Of course, such things are rare. I think they are even rare for NTs.

God NO! I have trouble with the ones in my life already. I am so anti social as it is. I have trouble keeping in touch with the few I talk to. I drop them like flies anyway, because most people get on my nerves after a while.

I have a few acquaintances that I hang out with once a week, in my local meet-up group. That's good enough, for now. I have never been able to define what makes a friend, anyway. I either end up getting taken advantage of, or getting people pissed at me, when I approached it as friendship.

Sometimes. Most of the time I don't really care.

I have exactly the number of friends I want or need, which is a relatively small number. I do not make friends quickly or easily, and I have a flaw where I put nothing into maintaining a friendship; this tends to keep the number of friends that I have naturally low. Anyone who is able to put up with me for very long, long enough to see why I am worth being friends with, must have a special tolerance about their soul; so those friends that I do have are of a very special caliber. I do not seek friends out; if I am meant to be friends with someone, it will all take care of itself in the natural course of things...

I have a few friends who I know from high school, the friendships creeping up to the two-decade mark in age.

I have a few friends (real friends, not just "work friends") who I've made in the 7 years I've been at my current place of employment.

And even in this place, there are people who I consider to be true friends; I may not have met them in person, but we correspond and share thoughts and ideas and dreams, and they feel just as much as friends to me as those old high school friends of 20-odd years.

But as it is, I tend to spend most of my time alone, and I have no trouble with that. And when I am alone, I am not really alone, for the special nature of my mind precludes that notion from tending to actuality. Are imaginary friends not also friends? To me, the imagined often feels more real than that which is real. And it amuses me to consider that this reality may very well exist only in the imagination of some supreme being somewhere.

"Computer - end program."

Good fortune,

- Icarus isn’t real...

I went through a period this year when I had many, many friends; first on the internet, then in real-life. I quickly discovered that I couldn't cope with the friend-keeping lifestyle and promptly broke off contact with all of them, just before suffering a succession of severe breakdowns. Partly I think this was instigated by the stress of so much social contact, and paradoxically, partly from loneliness. I cope best with one or two people to correspond with over the internet, a couple of RL friends I can meet up with occasionally and one very close, romantic and snuggly friendship, all of which I have right now.

I am desperate to have more RL friends, despite people at school hating IEP students.

At the moment, I don't have any real social life. Not that it wouldn't be nice. But for now, I want to concentrate on certain benchmarks I would like to reach in my occupation(accounting).

After I reach these benchmarks, it will be much easier for me to have a very strong resume that will put me on a more professional level in my field and make it easier to start building a social network.

I agree with Icarus about the imagination thing. I was once told by someone that I lead a rich, inner life. I am always either thinking of more fiction to write, fiction I've read, or amazing facts that I've recently discovered, in the vast data base in my head. I've collected quite a lot of patterns, and take pleasure in recognizing them in the world around me.