why won't this quit haunting me???

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three eyars ago I was particularly sensitive. To make a long story short me and a friend who turned out to be literally insane, and bipolar to the max, were hanging out and joking at PE. next thing I new she was saying osmething kinda mean, so I was pretending, to chocke her, you know homer simpson style? I don't even remember my hand on her neck! but next thing I knew I was being accused of trying to kill her. everything went wrong and she claimed that i had left bruises. I lost all my friends. it was one long dramatic horror story. the rest of the year people called me psycho, and "the strangler" the wouldn't be my friend, and thought I was crazy, though all facts lead to my so called friend being crazy. anyway, over the last three years though she moved away, poeple will still bring this up and upset me. and today she found me on a website called myspace, where I talk with my friends, and she called me crazy, and I blocked her. I want this to go away. I want people to stop calling me crazy. I was kind of surprised. I want it to be OVER! one friend who hadn't heard about it until recently became afraid when I got mad at her in class, and asked me if I was going to kill her. she wasn't joking. It was all in all the most scary even I have ever experianced in school...and it won't go away

You will need to sit down with this friend of yours and maybe a trusted third party as well and explain what happened with the "choking" incident and explain that you are not dangerous.

I've tried that in the past, and they never listen, even if an adult explains. they stay scared of me and things are never the same.

It sometimes seems like certain stigmas will stick throughout high school and can't be washed away People can't get it through their thick skulls that it was just one of those things, or maybe they're just looking for any excuse they can to pick on someone I saw college as being a chance to wipe the slate clean with regards to the social scene, and it has been more or less. I still sometimes make mistakes and am amazed by how much certain people will fixate on those sorts of things, but its not as bad anymore.

Yes, they probably hold on to this because it makes them feel more accepted to always look on you as being less accepted. Does that make sense? It might be best not to over-react when they bring it up too, because highschool kids get a kick out of that, and it can just cause them to keep on about it.

I agree with Abominablesnocone and Spacemonkey.

This will wash away in college. That's not to say you won't have any problems, but these types of issues are far less intense in a much more heterogeneous and open atmosphere.

I also think you need to try to just walk away from your harrassers and not respond. (I know that that is much easier to say than to do). Remeber, they don't really think you are dangerous; they are just securing their own pathetic place in society by bullying you. Would it even be possible to turn the whole thing into a joke that you initiate, rather than one of which you are the butt? That may not be possible; only you can decide.

I think many of us know about being the center of high school bullying. Yours seems quite intense because the circumstances around it are so unusual.

As much as possible, just walk away.