People misinterpret my humor a lot

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I have noticed that people misinterpret my humor a lot. I don't have a lot of expression in my voice, and most of the time I don't have much facial expression. I think a lot of people (especially women) interpret my humor as sarcastic, or hurtful in a sarcastic way. Sometimes I use sarcasm, but it is not meant to be hurtful or off-putting, but people may just perceive it that way. I am told I am funny and have a good sense of humor, but often everyone will laugh at something, and I find no humor in it at all. Or I want to say something funny, and draw a blank. Then I see people who effortlessly make people laugh. If I didn't have the AS monotone voice/no facial expression/dry humor I think people would like it more, and I would gain more people's favor. My dry humor is often seen as critical/sarcastic/sardonic, and many people don't seem to like that because it makes me look insecure or negative. I can't really help the way I am in this respect.

I have a similar kind of cynical, dry humor, and it puts a lot of people off. But I like it, so I won't try to change.

I've been told it's hard to tell when I'm joking because I always sound sarcastic. Some people think I'm hilarious, most don't even notice I tell jokes. Which I suppose means my jokes aren't very good.

Most of the time my humor is well received, but some of the time it just ends up being kind of awkward, either because I've done some kind of social faux-pas or else the other person just doesn't get it (or both).

Well said. I have the same problem. With NT's I often end up spending 30 times the amount of time it took me to crack a joke, explaining myself and the fact that I didn't mean to offend. Most of the time I'd just rather shut up.

i THOUGHT THIS WAS FUNNY....George Bush was in his office when Dick Cheney came in and told him, Mr.President, I'm here to inform you 4 Brazillian soldiers were killed". George Bush turned white from shock,and asked Dick, "Just how many is a Brazillian?"

I don't get it!

Yeah, I think my sense of humor is off, too...

I got it!

Love the joke.

Rule #1 on jokes: If you need to explain the punch line of it, it's dead! Just go "Oh, nevermind" if someone "doesn't get it" -- unless someone around you insists on an explanation.
Rule #2 on jokes: Got a joke you want to tell? Unless you explicitly want to be sarcastic or harsh, check your joke for any possibility that someone around you might get hurt feelings by it. Even this may fail once in a while -- if it does, learn from the experience so you don't do that another time.

We thrive on humor in our house. I love corny jokes. Overall, I'd say that my family's sense of humor is different. My younger son makes a lot of puns, which I hate because they twist my brain around, but the thing is, the associations he makes are so uncommon that he needs to explain his puns a lot.
I have found that a self-deprecating sense of humor is the best. I don't use sarcasm because it really is a mean type of humor. There is a saying, "Many a truth is said in jest." That is how people will interpret sarcasm
I love the Bush joke, by the way. Really funny!

I have a well-developed sense of sarcasm. Sometimes, it offends people because they don't get it. Oh, well...... I like it.

Not that I could change it.... but if I could, I still wouldn't.

My wife's second-favorite Tshirt says "SARCASM - It Beats Killing People."

(Her favorite says "People Like You Are the Reason People Like Me Need Medication.")

(My own favorite, so far, has a picture of an electric chair, and says, "I saved you a seat.")

Dry humor isn't always a problem. It works well for certain types of comedy. Take for example Gene Wilder's performance as Willy Wonka. He uses excentric humor, but so much of it is delivered in a nonchalant blasé way, and it works.

Of course, humor doesn't always work the same in person as it does on film.

My problem is sometimes using high-brow humour with people who don't know anything but what's on TV.

Political jokes? Math? World events? Completely lost on 'em. Worst of all, they look at me like I'm the stupid one for telling a joke they don't get. I guess that's just something normies don't do... they know what each other like and they don't deviate from that.

That's funny. I could see Bush thinking thousand, million, Brazillian and be confused. It reminded me of one time when Bush talked about education. He stood up next to children to promote his "No child left behind" by saying "childrens do learn when standards are high" He really teaches us that "it's not what you know, it's who you know that matters" when it comes to getting a job.

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