When people care more about your behavior than your feelings

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... it hurts. I see clues to that at the Judge Rotenberg Center website, I see clues to that in how my mother treated me... she thought my whole problem was not knowing how to read people or something. And I'd be perfect, or perfectly fine, if it weren't for that.

Yes, i totally know what u mean, like just because the person acts a certian way, their treated a certian way, its like wtf, remember we are ppl. Ugh that bothers me a lot!

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Being Normal Is Vastly Overrated

Hey Ana,

I think people misunderstand us as much as we misunderstand them...

They think we see the world just like they do, and obviously we should know better than to do such and such.... or make such and such social faux pas, etc... and it must be a weakness in our character as opposed to a neurological inability to understand certain things.. the way others do.

i agrees with that

Can relate and Idaho Aspie hit it on the nail for me already.

People are like that, it's the way society functions. But it's not unique to our situation. NT's are also treated in this way, society doesn't care how you feel, only how you act.

In a way, there is a benefit in that they can't police how you feel, only how you act. It's still not illegal to feel anything you want to feel.

It can be so dangerous tho. Like, my mother and the people that diagnosed me made wrong assumptions of what was going on inside my head based on how I acted. It sucked. There are times when I hate behaviorists so much. I find it shallow.

I know what you mean. My mother never cared what I felt. Feelings didn't exist. She only cared that I don't disrupt her herd (whoever was her herd at any given point in time) and that I do with my life "as everyone else does".