Law Enforcement 'Dressed Down'-Really IS an effective way to

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...avoid stim in the target.

I had written a judge about 'a thing' I had been priveledged that until that point (in my years timespan) no adult, friend, educator, inlaw or other would deal with or do other than redress or supress or remain ignorant of.

I won't say what it is.

Here is a review of that:

I was contacted by phone by an (officer) detective who was able to just ask simple questions and relate them simply to why he asked or where he got the information to ask.

Point 1.

He didn't become (emote) frustration when I said ok but you might not understand the way I speak.

Point 2.
He said that's ok, I've been reading up on Aspergers and I'm hear to listen. Tell me about it-why did you write *this*.

I felt very relieved to blah blah blah everything I had seen and experienced and everyone who covered, decieved, or was involved and how. Not everyone, but alot.

Point 3.
He asked permission to scedule a speaking. And spoke plainly about sceduling. One day doesn't work for me, you, how about.....XYZ.

Point 4.
He arrived and was still known to be an officer/detective/official/authority
yet,
there were no silver badges, milked leather, shiny shoes, hats, guns, sticks, pouches.

There was a casually dressed person in a dark blazer with an id card. I *knew* who he was, I wasn't surprised or spinning trying to figure out who or what was standing in front of me. I was still 'scared' but I wasn't 'stunted'.

EXCEPT FOR: (The Shutdown)
He brought a partner. Same height, same coloring, similar dress.

Protocol. We can't send our men out alone. (just when they're on the highway-right?)

The thing was, I had a feeling as much as a few days in advance that it was going to happen this way-I was really grateful that it was not a woman, and it mght as well have been, not because of gender or competence or saavy but because I experienced physcial and mental torture by my caretaker-who was one; and it wasn't the day for crossing new bridges.
But it would have been as ok as anything.
The circumstance had already changed. Change is change is change. (edited for clarify).

I still knew the person who I had spoken to, and *could* speak to was there as sceduled. And during the speaking that person was still there and I could look towards the voice I trusted-and ground. I could trust my words because I could trust the person hearing them. But I couldn't say all of them.

I had a guy who wasn't supposed to be there sitting on my blind side, catching himself when he was emoting.

I could trust the detectives partner choice of the day, and the second person was not *emoting* loudly the ques I've come to know as disbelief or boredom, annoyance, waste of time, lying, whore ect; and I *knew* he wasn't corrupt or even mildly crooked; just less read and practiced. Young. Bullish. But he was still doing it. Obeying orders because they were said and contemplating why but giving the benifit of the doubt on them. The first man's protege, son, or choice.

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Anyways, my point if there was one,

Someone took the risk to take great care that my own aspergers didn't freak me out
while spending government funds to do it, somewhat counterproductively-but not.

I feel horrible. I should have just let them go at the door and written something up.
They offered to go at the door, but that would have been counterproductive too
I am so grateful somebody made themselves available to 'listen'.
Even if I could only say half in the confusion.

I kept thinking about what I needed to say about a related matter, but I kept thinking about how the 2nd officer is going to respond to that-and couldn't. It's what I wanted to tell the one who's voice and rationale I trusted-it was a really weird instance-I needed his untainted feedback.

At the same time I felt awful for the other fellow having to be placed in the experience of-me. I'll circle appologetics for awhile.

Responses can set me down/silence me to aversion for months. This has been going on for years. I've been doing so well finding alternative means of communication, regardless.

Point 5
Afterwards however, I realized
I was able to stay coherent for as much as I did because I knew authority sat across from me but were dressed as regular people.
I believe they even arrived, not just unmarked, but unmarked.

Even when you do not trust someone who is speaking, it is not neccessary to emote that you do not trust them. Those things should be kept private. Sponging information while in an authority position creates a large database of -information.

So that is my story. I met with cops (is that an offensive term?) and didn't/couldn't address everything because there were 2 things to listen/watch/respond/ at/to, I couldn't fit both of them in my field of vision, two people instead of 1 were deciding what. And there was just one of me.

And I KNOW why it has/had to be that way. And that still was the experience in that context.

SeaBright, I am glad that they treated you right, but I wish that they would do that for everyone.

I know...
I felt sooo guilty over that.

but it true is an enlightenment in the right direction. It's really hard when you don't have a person to advocate for you. And I don't. I never have. Black sheep is an understatement.

They really went out on a limb. I just hope they climbed back safely.

I hope so. I hope their be able to initiate this kind of trust, candor, privacy with the inclined women of the multicultural communities I represent as well. People WANT to talk. The passage ways for this are not made available; er.. are now.

I researched the commendation process and have a blank sheet set aside and dated.

Laughs. When I was a kid, everyday I thought/expected a police officer to just walk up and say 'whaddaya know?'