How long did you think you just had to snap out of it?

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All my bloody life I was depressed to some extent. I think lots of it was caused by ADD. I was scared of misbehaving, so I couldn't express my impatience, irritability, sadness, etx. People thought I was a spoiled brat, I needed to be disciplined, etc. So I stopped showing my unhappiness. I thought it was my fault and everyone would think it was my fault. I didn't want to be told that I didn't know how lucky I had it, or whatever. I didnm't want people to tell me to snap out of it, grow up, do something productive, "too bad", "shut up, I can't stand ypur complaining", etc.

Damn this behaviorist society. Please, someone, help me forgive.

A decade.

I'm about there with you. For me, I remember being like that when I was 4 and it getting worse when I was 7. I started improving when Iwas 17 and now I'm still becoming less like that. I don't feel as intimidated by people now. I was born into he wrong family and town, I guess.

11+ years and still holding out. I keep hoping everything will go away when my hormones slow down (I'm 20).

Oops, my last post was meant for MissPickwickian, not Kwiksnax.

My whole life I knew there was something "not quite right" with me. No one could ever tell me what it was. I was just different than everyone else. And since the doctor's can't tell you what it is, it must be "all in your head" right? Wrong! It doesn't have to be that way. Finally, I have some peace in simply knowing the name of my problem. Now I can accept it, file it away in my not so normal mind, and move on with my life. Finally, an answer to a lietime's worth of questions - most of them starting with "Why...".
And Ana54, I completely feel your pain! It's not just one thing and life can get terribly depressing! It's difficult for others who only deal with one or two things to understand that.

When people complain about complaining I just tell them I'm sick of them complaining about it. It works with selfishness too. If someone says I'm selfish they're basically saying I should think about them more. Which is selfish.

As far as the difficulties you have with the effects of Autism, you don't snap out of it. You have to climb out of it one step at a time like climbing up a very high mountain.

Years and years.

I never saw that there was anything for me to snap out of.

I kind of laughed at the headmaster who told me to pull my socks up; I was completely oblivious to the expectations and trappings of society in my teenage years, I still am to some extent. I still have nothing to snap out of, nor could I if I wanted to, I now know my brain is a little different to the norm, and that's cool.

The worst years,the ones when i really thought that there was something to "snap out of" and that i "could do it if i really wanted to" were from 1997 to 2005, because of a personal development course i went on that pretty much taught that if life seemed hard it was because I wasn't "seeing reality". It was a deeply depressing experience for me, even if i did pick up a few useful mental perspectives/tricks in amongst the insidiously conformism-encouraging ideas.
And i guess during a certain period of childhood ( from 10 to, ..well actually not that long ago!!, even tho am 44 ) because my parents often seemed to think i was being deliberately this or that, and that if they told me off enough or stressed various good examples, usaully my unbearably "good" sister, I could stop.
But i used to think that was them being strict etc etc, not really my problem, whereas the Life Training/More to Life programme persuaded me that it had always been my problem, and that I could change everything , get rid of all "negative" feelings, if i just "did the work". Snapped out of it, in other words. It's amazing how old fashioned the programme's angle is in fact, under all the new age jargon.

I thought I needed to "snap out of it" for about 33 years, a third of a century; these days I've come to believe that everyone else needs to snap out of it. I cannot snap out of being who I am, and I am done trying to do so.

Good fortune,

- Icarus snaps to his own grid lines...