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MaybeorNot
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21 Jan 2008, 5:47 pm

Recently, it seems that no matter what I do, no matter which one of several tasks which are currently "on my plate" I decide to do, it gets on sombody's wick, it rubs someone up the wrong way, basically, it annoys someone. Does anyone else have this situation, if so, what emotional of physiological response does it invoke, because I'm feeling two emotions, I woun't call it ambivalence, because that's two irreconcilable emotions, and my responses are basic upset, because I reckon I am doing the right thing, for the right reasons, and concern, as in "What am I doing wrong?!"

Any assistance in this matter would be greatly appreciated.



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21 Jan 2008, 6:07 pm

Ah yes, seems this is happening to me...at work.

I attended "what I felt were useless" weekly (sometimes daily) meetings for some projects. When developers needed help as to what needed to be done, how they should do it, etc...I always answered...hey, that's my job! Unfortunately, the "marketing" NTs constantly complained that I always undermine their solutions, that I always think I know more than they do, blah, blah...So, fine, I got tired of my boss and others constantly telling me that X marketing person (or Y, or Z) was again complaining about me, so I stopped attending ALL the meetings. I only communicated with developers and some anal;ysts who test my projects over the phone (we all get along great...most of course not NTs...or at least, more like me...) and email...

Well, fast forward a month or so, and I have the NT marketing people emailing me and asking me if I am going to attend the meetings or not because THEY NEED MY HELP and there are many issues that come up that they can't answer, blah, blah...

So, which one is it? I just don't seem to win with them. With the developers, I have no problems at all. From Poland to the US, they call me and we all seem to understand each other, although not all are native english speakers...yet, we figure things out...

But the marketing ones? Well, I just couldn't handle.

By the way, I was in marketing and left not because of the customers, they loved that I was honest with them...but I left because management did NOT like that I was honest with the customers, although they all adored me. Even the Japaneese who are very picky...

So, there you go...I give up. Reason why I'm looking to quit my job to avoid this in the future.



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21 Jan 2008, 9:23 pm

well, that's a whole group of people who sell the sizzle instead of the steak..;) I guess I'm lucky, I'm sort of a 'lone wolf' tech who sets and resets priorities a dozen times a day. I suppose you can look at it from a hierarchical perspective, and please the boss first. just a thought.