Really Tired Of The "You Are An Idiot" Look . . .

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Ever get that look? It doesn't matter what it was that you said or did, someone always shoots you the "You are an idiot" look. On average I'd say I get it just about every time I open my mouth.

I have a professor who doesn't really like me all that much, I think. When she asks the class a question, what she's really asking is for everyone EXCEPT me to answer . . . of course, she doesn't come out and just say that; no that would be too easy.

Anytime I answer anything in that class, it doesn't matter if I'm right or wrong, she gives me the "Uh huh; that's nice; now shut up" look. Other people can answer the same exact way as me, and they're awarded with a smile and praise . . . but not me. I just get the "You're an idiot and I'm stuck with you" look.

Geez, and they wonder why aspies respond so badly to criticism. It's because we're criticized all the effing time!

If she would just praise me once in a while, I would know what to say vs. what not to say, and then would speak less; but I think that she figures if she praises me at all, it'll just be an encouragement to speak more. Recently a friend sent me a doodle book that I've recently started using to draw in class. Instead reprimanding me on it, she suggested that I should try using colored pencils.

People are always just so in your face about everything you do wrong. No one ever praises for anything. No wonder I always feel like I can't do anything right.

no one ever takes me seriously doesn't matter how right I am about
something there is just something about me that gives people the message that my input is less than worthless.

I don't know what this look is, but I have gotten strange looks from other people before after comments I've made.

yes, seems like they do that to try and shut u up doesn't it.

anyway maybe they are just afraid to acknowledge your brilliance.

You should practice the virtue of pride more consistently.

Then it won't matter if the entire world gives you a "you're an idiot look," because you'll know that you aren't. And, what's more important, you'll realise that that is all that matters.

Oh, and yeah... THAT is a look I have learned to decode.

My dad treats me that way. I couldn't take it anymore, so I've left.

Some people will never be able to understand people who are on the spectrum.. Although it could be something else... Something was pointed out to me once -- I had a similar situation with a teacher and when I told a friend about it, she said "Maybe, she just doesn't like you"... In other words, kindof not to take it personally and there might not be much you can do to make her like you at all.. you might even remind her of someone she didn't like from some other time... Try not to let it get to you.. Also, some people in power find it lifts them up to look down on others, especially someone different -- she might just have some issues of her own too.. Try not to let it get you down.. I know that is so depressing and aggravating though -- I've experienced similar responses from certain people..

Sometimes, I think it's because they don't understand and it creates a type of personality clash... other times, I'm sure I probably said something or did something wrong.. I used to take it so personally and try to go out of my way to befriend and correct whatever I did wrong.. but that really usually doesn't work... If someone has intolerance toward me, I don't think there's much that I can do to change that with certain people.. I try to do the best I can, even though I know I don't see alot of the body language or get alot of the finer details of communication.. People are mean often times because they just don't understand...

It might be the way you're asking the question.

I get the look at times, but I know I have a certain manner of asking questions. If I get the look, my reaction is to automatically give it back. Echopraxia or something. I even give the "You are STUPID!" look unintentionally to people. You could be talking about how to save the world in a very efficient and cost-saving way and my facial expression would be

Are you sure it's that type of look? Trouble with facial expressions and all for those with an ASD.

Saying to use colored pencils instead of lead can be seen as showing you her disapproval in a tactful way.

Not everything is as it seems.

My new co-workers. Its odd, I even hear them call me an idiot every now and again. The workers who have been there for a number of years usually remark: 'she is brilliant and has a much better memory than the rest of us...she is here to get the mail out and get paid, not to make friends'
I'm kinda dreading my birthday. I bet the new hires will seek to 'punish my bad behavior' by not getting me a cake, which to them is a sort of insult, and they will gloat over for weeks.
As for the cake, I'm not supposed to eat it, My doctor noted a lot of heart and diabetes issues in my family history and wants me to eat better.

They're the ones who are the idiots.

I've gotten the "you are an idiot look" pretty often.

I've learned how to do the "you are an a$$*ole look" quite well because of it.

Some professors are just jerks, too. I had one who was, and who was always trying to humiliate me in front of the class. The rest of the class ended up admiring me though because I was the only one with the guts to go to the dean about it because I didn't know or care about various social rules against doing things like that. They all couldn't stand him either, but none of them felt like they could stand up to him.