People who said stuff about you/your probs as if they knew/

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understood you/your problems.


My mother was guilty of this a few years ago, one of the most notable times when she said that I was starting to "conquer the difficulties of my AS after having difficulties that i was born with". WHAT? YUCKO! BLEEEEEAAAUUGH! And to add insult to injury the serious/matter-of-fact way in which she said it mixed with those words sounded downright SAPPY to me!


I was not born with my social anxiety which led to the dysfunction and social ineptness. I was born me, different and unique, but not that much. And I had a few differences with a mother that was very different from me, and unable to see my view and maybe me unable to see hers, and it was not me or her. I got social anxiety and stubbornness about certain social stuff because she would NEVER LEAVE ME ALONE about it. Too much intrusiveness, bossiness, controlling on her part. It was like she wouldn't let me have one quirk in public. Not one. Even if I was totally normal besides that one quirk. Let me have one thing that distinguishes me from all others in the world! But no!


I did not try to get rid of this socil ineptrness I was born with. I did not have it. I tried to be myself. And I was being myself or keeping a low profile all those times she thought I was trying or, consciously or subconsciously to get rid of my ineptness.


She was not an expert on me. She still isn't. She didn't know me, just the most shallow things about me; that she might have been an expert on.

There was a member here who has been banned who does a lot of that to me online, Ana - member name here; Rossc. (AKA Rossco on AFF and Sir Les Patterson on Aspergian Island - he's also known as that on I2 and I only know that because I got a PM from that account when someone else was spoofing my email addy on I2).

I have had others assume as well, and it's very frustrating and annoying. A few are Aspies Enemies on my website Wiki, although not specifically for that reason.

I hate how my mom think's im some kind of genius and I could do anything I want to. She has no idea how difficult it is for me to make friends and be normal, just because she's the kind of person who will talk to every random stranger she sees. I've gone to the same k-12 school my entire life with some people and I have never once spoken to some of these people. Not once.

Yes, one of the idiot evaluators at the university who said I would never amount to anything and offered up a bunch of lunatic theories, none of which were true.

Uni "students"!

Fools like that have no experience usually - unless they pursue external part time employment or volunteer work in the "industry" (a member of my Wiki does that).

My mother does not leave me alone.I get told that i dont look normal because i dont swing my arms when i walk or have normal conversations.I get asked to talk more then when i do my mother says i make her feel tierd.I have been told that no one is intrested in talking about things i find intresting and i should talk about people because thats what people like talking about.Im sure i would come across as a lot less autistic if i got left alone,the constant worrying about everything and having everything pointed out to me is making me have worse social anxiety.

Sounds to me like your mother needs an education in Aspergers, Cataspie!