NT vs. AS thing or not...people trying to show off to you...

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I am wondering if showing off to others is an NT thing because of their constant need to follow the crowd or fit in.
Our neighbors are nice people, yet it seems they have a constant need to tell us when they buy something more expensive, when they go on exotic vacations, etc...

Another example is we are trying to sell our house...we've been saying for a while we must leave here for our son, etc...while we were on vacation, they found out we were planning to move...we came back and they had put their house for sale...basically, trying to beat us...No big deal, we put ours when we were ready...The first week we put ours for sale, he told us that he had 5 people coming on a Sunday to see it...A few days later, we had one showing...he immediately came to find out about it...and then told us that if the guy didn't like our house, to send them his way and he would do the same for us...Well, that Sunday came and went and he didn't have anyone at all show up. Actually, he's had nobody show up yet. We know because I am home 99% of the time.

Now he's coming asking again about if the first guy came again and said he had seen him here yesterday...yes, it's true... but instead of coming to tell us that's a good sign, he comes to tell us that just because someone comes a couple of times doesn't mean they're interested...they just like to come and see houses...he said he does this with his wife...blah, blah...We have never discouraged or encouraged him at this point.

I just feel like there are more NTs like this than AS people, since most AS people don't really care what others think.

Some people are just like that, I think its because they are insecure with themselves and so they must buy things in order to impress others and appear successful. I'd say that that its only a small portion of NTs who behave this way, most people I know don't do this sort of thing. I haven't met any other Aspies in person so I don't know if any of them carry this trait, but I certainly don't, in fact I consider myself a minimalist, I only own things that I need.

Should get a really good computer artist to make the largest screen TV thats fake but pretend it’s real, & weighs that much then he goes off & buys the real thing then you take the fake TV outside & start to destroy it with him watching lol

All that debt stuff isn't it, can’t afford it why not get stuck in tones of debt, like a flock of sheep, banks don’t blink an eye lid when they hear someone is in 80k of debt... Go into debt just to buy a flash car to show off, is just nuts... specially since it eats fuel badly.

Yeah it's horrible. The debt economy of the world is insane yet people don't care since they get to buy anything they want with their credit cards. Banks are such a ripoff.

I'm NT, but you are more social than I am. I don't speak to my neighbors at all . I've known some insecure people like that though. You can't have a conversation with them because they are always trying to do one better.

Actually, I knew one female Aspie like that. She would either try to do one better or she would completely change the topic to something she could argue about. I don't know if she was officially Dx'ed as having Aspergers, but she had the same voice quality that I've heard in others with Aspergers.

Most people show off regardless of neurology. NTs seem to show off in socially dominant ways, like in material goods, PC talk and fashion. People tend to buy "the right car", the "right phone", the "right clothes" etc. But Atypicals show off in other ways, like bragging about how much they know or do or where they have been. there are a couple here and elsewhere that love to talk about how dumb everyone is. If you complain about their comments they say that they are just being honest, but it's not really a genuine point. They really want to brag about their competence in whateverness.

One of my pet peeves is when people start bragging about being college educated. Who cares?! Going to college doesn't ensure proficiency in anything, let alone informing intelligence.

WOW, SAME HERE! I have known smart people that never went to college, and DUMB people that DID! Besides, college doesn't even REALLY promise anything. Everyone is to specialize, and some colleges stress that HEAVILY. So one with a doctorate in medicine may have studied far more than one in literature, etc... Steven Wozniak is one that I respect, and many others do. He went back to college LONG after he was a multimillionare by doing what many heavily "educated" failed to.

I will respect the result, and NOT the means to get there. If a person flew on the concord, some would respect that they could afford it. HECK, by that measure, it was a ripoff! You could rent, or possibly BUY a NICE jet for the same amount. I would only be impressed by the speed at which they did business, etc...

Frankly though, I have seen few brag here. Some may think some things I have said were bragging. If so, check the context. ALSO, I don't stress it at all, and have openly appreciated other's abilities, etc....

Normally we don't care, we just are happy for people...but I think he has now crossed the line with this selling the house issue. To the extent that anytime someone comes to see our house, he comes over to ask who it was, what they said, etc. He put 5adds on the website we put ours, although it states you cannot have more than one and took pics and included them on the site and came to show us the pics, but didn't even offer to loan us the camera although he knows our camera was stolen. These are neighbors for whom I planned their daughter's wedding and didn't charge a dime, my husband has mowed their lawn when they were sick, we were there everyday when their daughter was in ICU, you name it.

At the end, we have learned a lesson to stay away from people like that.

there is an expression for peeps like this when they show off exey(expensive) stuff. Its called Keeping up with the jones's. When one family gets something like a big car other peeps get one just so they don't get left behind.

real lame.