my thoughts on NT vs aspie communication

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hi all

well ithought i would write a thread on my thoughts on this.

I have noticed that when i write, ... i dont have as many communication problems as when i am talking to people in person.

Writing has
- Visual element which aspies like
- Ability to read and edit
- Simplicity

I think the reason that aspies find face to face communication hard is because it is multi-tasking. It comes naturally to NTs but to us it is like trying to cook a meal, pat the dog, answer the phone, and write a report all at the same time.

So, my thought is that even after aspies learn social skills, it is this multitasking problem that trips us up.


Also, I think that they say that aspies hyperfocus and NTs dont. I actually think that NTs are hyperfocused. They are so hyperfocused on each other that we dont even notice it.

so those are some thoughts i have been having.

I don't think that anyone could cook a meal, pat the dog, answer the phone, and write a report at the some time. Unless they were some sort of four-handed mutant (no offense to anyone with extra limbs), it's just not possible

ok i have made it all very unclear in my initial post.. something I do a lot. sometimes my ideas, even simple ones i for some reason describe in unnecessarily complex terms.


I mean: NTs have brains wired for picking up several types of stimuli simultaneously during social interaction. That is a multi-tasking processing system they have.

We are wired to just listen to the words only: our social neurobits are wired for monotasking.

The thing is aspies are taught "social skills" but actually I think our inability to process all these social stimulis are really what trips us up, not our brashness.

So, perhaps learning social skills is only half the answer for us?

Its automatic, ask them how they do it & they won't be able to answer it, they just know. Anyway these days most of the other stuff is irrelevant as most people are lying anyway, body language, facial expression so on, going on that stuff won't be 100% these days. Or why do we have lie detectors & most people need to train for human lie detector... Can only use high probability to guess the wright response...

& if you get it wrong, you ask in a way that makes you not look sure... Or you say sorry... Then you ask them irrelevant questions that covertly get the information that you needed to fill in the blanks, & can build a picture of the person infront of you, & make them think you can read they minds...

Well since most of it is none-verbal...

http://www.andrews.edu/~tidwell/lead689/NonVerbal.html

MIssed something out wonder if this is why As & NTs have problems....*