Jealous of NTs

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Sometimes when I look at my brothers and see them having luck with girls and having tons of friends and good at sports (something I definetly wish I had as I love sports) and I cant help but get a bit jealous at this that I will never get. Anyone else ever feel this way.

How old are you?

My suggestion would be to learn to have contempt for NTs. They have their little relationships but ultimately their lives are hollow. They are limited to seeing things in the same way, all of them.

Learn to enjoy your uniqueness.

Yeah, all the time. Especially when it comes to dating. It's frustrating.

Im 19 and thats a really nice motto you have.

I don't think it's fair to put all NTs in one pigeon hole. They can have uniqueness, and don't neccessarialy have hollow lives. Us AS folk can have hollow lives as well, sitting in our rooms obsessing over some random topic.

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NTs also have their uniqueness and place in this world as we do, as Lowfreq50 said, putting all NTs into a place of contempt will get those with AS/Autism no closer to acceptance and understanding. It'll only drive things further apart and who will be those most affected by it... us not the NTs because then they'll be proven right in their opinions. I have an NT son that is just as quirky and unique and wonderful in his own ways and I would never have asked for him to be any different than he is, he's advanced and has such an interesting personality even though I don't fully understand everything he does, I make the effort to try because I love him just as much as my oldest son with HFA. We all have our places in this world as well as everyone has challenges, it's not what the challenges are but how we face them and overcome them that matters. If we shut out NTs they'll continue to do the same for us. Instead of holding contempt for them, prove them wrong about how they view us.

At times I may be jealous of NTs but then I realize I am who I am, I am who I was meant to be and I'll be the best I can be because only I can do that. No other person and no amount of jealousy of anyone else will make me any better than anyone else if I can't accept myself.

I just went to Taco Bell to get my dinner, and I saw about seven NTs working there.

Hey, I went to Taco Bell also! What did you get? I got 2 double-decker tacos.

I got a chicken quasadilla and two supreme tacos.

Um, okay?

Seriously though, I guess I just usually get jealous when guys (whether NT or otherwise) are better looking, funnier, more intelligent, more aware of themselves and the world, and more successful than I am. There are definately some Aspies that I'm jealous of for those reasons, including people on this board.

Sometimes.

Depends on the situation though.

I'm often jealous of the way people manage to get to know others so quickly.

I go through phases - sometimes I look at normal people and all the gossip and backbiting and jelously and all that great stuff that goes with relationships and think 'Wow! I'm so lucky I don't have to deal with all that!'

But then I think about how if I get sick or something there will be no one there for me and that is sort of sad . . . but I feel good about not having to deal with relationships more than I feel bad about it . . .

Sometimes I feel jealous of NTs. Especially those who are younger than me. If a 16 or 17 year-old that my family knows gets their Drivers Licence, I feel jealous, because I know that I get irritated when I see dangerous drivers comming from all directions, and that's why I don't have my licence. I get jealous when I hear news about a 17 year old going to College Courses that she picked out for herself, and living in her own Dorm. I wasn't even given a choice in the way of what courses I wanted to go into. I was pressured into going into that Adult Special Education job preperation programme, that I ended up despising. I stayed in that programme to make my Parents happy. I felt so miserable that my Hippie Spirit was broken. I joked around with my Collegues and my Professors in order to disquise the things that I was really feeling. I felt really jealous when my kid sister started going off to her Self-Choosen Majors, as I was working at the Factory, taping zippers, trimming threads and turning and trimming waders, at a speed of 150%, because the job was so easy that Rainman would have been able to handle it. I became more Cockneyfied with each passing month, until I quit, exactley three years after I took a job offer, there in hopes that I would be moved around to all the different departments, which never happened. And that personality shift taking place in Canada, where the young people lead the Hippies in 1967. I feel jealous of people who never seem to get angry, even though I was one of those people when I was in Highschool. I used to feel jealous of British Immigrants who've managed to lose their Accents, until somebody at my Clubhouse told me how wonderful my Cockney Accent is. I was jealous of my Family Members until that very day, as well. On the Flipside, my Sister is engaged, and I'm not jealous of her, at all. I'm very happy for her. I guess it's because I want to be a Single Swinger for the rest of my life.

I am a bit jealous of NA's ability to socialize better than I do. It's not that I would want to do it all the time. But when I do, I'd like to be able to do it really well. Just to have the ability to do it.

And I also wouldn't mind being more skilled at verbosity than I am. I admire people who have quick comebacks. But that's not really an NA thing. It's just a not-me thing.

Well I can tell you that I've never been great with that either.