Told to change your special interest?

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I know I've made a similar topic in the past but the thought crossed my mind today when dad said I need to stop buying videogames. Uh NO! (I didn't say that but thought that) As of now money is tight so I'm replaying Golden Sun 1 and 2 (in preparation for 3 this holiday season) I plan on buying that and a 3DS when it comes out the new Zelda etc. I will always try to make time for gaming no matter what. That's why I'm interested in psychology (I can have my cake and eat it too) What better person to analyze games as a Psychologist than a GAMER! Who can look at the games objectively and not toss Psychology BS at the gaming issues.

I'll be quite honest with you, if anyone told me to stop doing any of my special interests, including gaming, I'd tell them to go f**k themselves, or to go get sodomized with a rusty chisel. My apologies for the language.

It sounds like he's just asking you to spend less money, not change your special interest.

If anybody was to tell me to give up my special interests, I'd ask the person, how they would feel, if their favourite things were taken away from them.

My outburst aside:

-Teachers taking my insect books away because they creeped out the other children.
-My friends in my Christian club in college asking me why I didn't listen to Christian music like they did because I listen to videogame music. My music was actually referred to as "noise" on my Formspring once.

My family has always characterised my interests as frivolous or stupid - and they don't even know about some of my stranger ones. I refuse to and don't think I am able to change them at will - my brain picks them out and I'm stuck with them until I'm done with them or I find something else even more interesting.

I'm glad not that many people try to change me. Though sometimes I think back and wish they would have. Never would have gotten into Mario and Pokemon, would have spent all my allowance buying multiple unopened copies of Chrono Trigger or some other game which would make me rich. I wish I never bought my paintball gun, because paintball is one of the most expensive hobbies on earth.

All time time as a child and young teen. I was always told to "widen my horizions". When my parents told me that, it made me feel I wasn't loved very much and it made me feel so bad and made me hate my parents.

When I was eight I was obssessed with the Nazis, I loved their uniforms, weapons, and tanks. People were constantly telling me I should find other books to read when I was in the library when they saw me looking for some info or re-reading the same old books over and over again. People told me my instrest in them was on healthy because the pain and suffering they caused.

When I was a teenager, I was fortunate to be obsessed with the Beatles, because veryone else that I knew was too, so I didn't stand out and my parents didn't hassle me (except that I got in trouble with one of the nuns at my school when she confiscated a John Lennon book that I was showing some girls in the school bathroom).

My AS son became obsessed with the Beatles with my help when he was about 3 and that was different. He knew huge amounts of information about them, and would throw a fit if someone tried to play anything other than Beatles music. My NT husband would complain that our interest in the music was "cult" like. Ha! DVD's, CD's, books, cassette tapes everywhere!! ! Long live the Beatles!! !

Thankfully all of my special interests have been creative outlets, from writing fiction to essays, to film making and graphic design, so no one's ever really told me to try to change them or to 'get a life'. I've tried on occasion to get more into some of the other minor ones I have, such as music and art, but I could never really fully commit myself to any of them. It's like my entire purpose in life is to tell stories, any way I can. My problem is that I can't decide which method I like best...