Increasing Need for Isolation and Lack of Sociability

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I've noticed that I am starting to become more antisocial, especially around friends and family. I just get irritated by them, and make my irritation plain, and yet I'm busted down a peg by my mum for this. I can't help it if I am irritated by these people, even if they're good intentioned.

Is there anything wrong with me? Or is this just something to do with my AS?

As I get older, I seem to be doing more of that as well...

Same here.
I find myself just being mean all the time so people wont talk to me.
Though, this gets me hit by my dad constntly. Especially if I give him a wierd look when he laughs at something not fuuny to me.

Need for isolation and labile mood? Could be depression, or maybe the stress is getting to you.

I'm like that as well. I am not QUITE as vocal about it anymore, but that is because then I look like the bad guy, and I'm not. It is definitely AS related.

That is going to depend on how "old", "getting older" constitutes.... I think you're all half my age or less, or about there. I had a time in my mid 20's where I was very angry and antisocial. Thinking about it later, after I learned about Asperger's it occurred to me that period of time corresponded with my "emotional" mid to late teens, when NT's are used to seeing a lot of angst and rebellion from their kids. I just put it down to "maturity pains" and forgot about it until I read this. Talk to your doctor, if you're seeing one. They can probably help mediate the worst of it, if you're willing to medicate. If not... we always swore by "sex, drugs and rock & roll"....

i'm like that too...as much as i love my family, i just can't stand being around them at times...well, most of the time, actually. the thought of going to visit makes me start to shake, and i get really upset, and then when i get there...well, usually not a good thing.
i can be like that with my friends too. as microban said, i too start being mean to people and try to intentionally piss them off so that they go away and leave me alone (even if it isn't really what i want?)
it just seems easier in some ways when no one is around. but then, it gets really lonely.

It's really more of a case of, if something irritates me, I'll speak out against it almost immediately. Problem is, I'm doing it to closer relatives, like my grandmother and my godfather. Of course, my grandmother has a strong personality (though she's not actually bad), but my godafther is a really sweet natured guy. Problem is, he makes an effort to talk to e, even when I make it clear that I don't want to talk. People don't seem to take 'no' for an answer! When I say 'no', I shouldn't have to repeat myself.

I've gotten way worse since I've started college. I am increasingly bored and annoyed by people - it's definitely gotten much worse. I used to wish I was more successful at being social - now I don't even care. I feel like I struggled so long internalizing everything that bothered me to make myself normal so that I wouldn't stand out or cause my family stress, and now that I believe I have AS and my mom believes it too, I feel like I should get a pass on all this struggling. Obviously, I still feel like I should go to college and do well, and still have friends and keep my eyes open for a possible boyfriend, etc, but I feel as though I shouldn't feel pressured to do group social events and stay on weekends if I don't want to. I',m just much more annoyed with people than I used to be, and feel fed up that my family refuses to accommodate me at times - when they have no idea how much I hid from them so they could have a 'normal' daughter. My mom mistakes me being anti-social for being lazy or selfish at times, even though she knows that it is hard for me. But I just don't feel like trying really hard to overcome my awkwardness and social difficulties if I have no desire to hang out for long periods of time with anybody I know.

I wander in and out of that mindset.

My son 17 definately has gone through a good year and a half of being agitated by me.

He's come out of it now.

Spend enough time around the same person and your space gets cramped: especially when your space is being defined.

It wasn't painless. Once I explained the effect his short fuse was having on me, getting attitude while I was minding my own ect, things sort of fell back together and we're back to being functioning roomies again.

My fussing was bothering his sleeping (I was just barging through the halls recklessly/selfishly for instance-he was patient until his fuse broke) those type of things-undefined.

Once defined everyone could readjust.

I hope you place of peace presents itself, Quartermass

lol I have to be isolated from people, because I'm dangerous.