Do You Really Want Friends?

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Honestly, we have a difficult time getting friends. But, do you really want them?

It is like having a pet. A great deal of maintaining. They take time and effort away from the things you like obsessing over. The biggest problem is you have to guess what they are thinking and you have to do what they always want to do. Seems rather troublesome.

I would think it would be fun to have a friend that I could just call on when needed. But other than that, it is more difficult than it is worth 99% of the time.

What do you think, are friends worth the trouble, most the time?

I need someone my age to talk to.

Yes. You can't live your life without them. The hard part is, just like a mate, you have to weed out ALLLL the lame ones that'll come in for a short time and leave you, someone who'll stick around for the long run. That's the hard part. And if you want to find that, then you've gotta give it a shot.

I'm going through and "no friends" phase at the moment. No, I do not want friends in real life. I don't have any, and I'm fine that way. I don't feel I need any. Maybe it's a phase. Maybe it's not. Only time will tell.

Real friendship is a bit too much.

Edit: Just to add the "deep down" reason for this. Till this day I haven't found anybody trustworthy.

Well, if it is a friend, you don't "have to do what they always want to do". You find a middle ground; mutual understanding.

There is this person I know who always wants to do what he wants; I never do. I don't consider him a friend. He doesn't understand that I couldn't care less about what is popular; of the latest invention and what not.

I, deep inside, do want friends, but my actions do not reflect that. I mentally observed my actions when I'm around people and I give off this vibe of not wanting to be there, of not giving a damn. It is true, I don't, yet ironically I want friends. Not so much that I struggle with names, but enough to make me "escape".

A person who is more concerned about him/herself than others can never be friends with another. I am not a very good friend because I cannot escape myself.
There will always be a misunderstanding.

I don't want friends, especially the kind one would meet in person. It just isn't worth the effort. All those unspoken rules and obligations, I never liked it. Especially the expectation to spend money on/with them or going out to places, I hate that the most (mainly because I almost never have money of my own and can't stand feeling indebted to others).

Even though my cat doesn't really like me much, I'd rather spend time with him than with so-called human friends.

It's too hard trying to be the person people want to be around. My real self is too abrasive...boring...blah and the interesting, more "fun" persona is just so exhausting to maintain. I don't think I would want to be around me, either.

I've lost interest in seeking out friendship. If I happen to come across a friend, I try to be nice enough to maintain the friendship. I like having a few friendships based on common interests (music and animals), but I'd rather have no friends than too many. I don't have enough time and energy to devote to much of a social life. I like to be alone.

Idk, I think I do want friends, but maybe I only think that because I've never successfully developed a friendship enough to see the downside.

I don't know why -- but I do want friends. I haven't had a real close friend since junior high, and it didn't bother me up until about a year ago -- and it hit me hard. I became lonely and very depressed.
For me it would be better to have online friends -- I can socialize better online than I can in real life.

I like having a few close friends to talk about typical stuff people my age face, but I don't need to hang out with them every day of the week. a few times a week is fine. I don't need a friend group - too much drama. A few individual friendships and then acquaintances in class or at work to chat with are fine by me.

I'm comfortable with my current situation. Me and my #4 brother spend a few hours every weekend with his friend, and then a few hours with our sister and nieces. That's enough for me.

Maybe if I didn't have my brother to talk to, and I didn't have the computer and internet, and my video games, I'd want to go out and get some friends. But as it is, I don't want any.

I have several friends, but I get tired of being around them all the time, and like to have my alone time to recharge my mental batteries. I agree with others, that it takes alot of energy to maintain friendships.

I also have a hard time finding people I can truly trust and have common interests with as well.
People I have encountered have different pieces of the package, but not the whole package.