Mixing roles?

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I'm an adult (20 years old) but I still hate mixing "roles"...for example, I would feel extremely uncomfortable getting married since it would confuse the role of my mom's kid and someone's wife. (Similarly, I hate talking about relationships with my mom). I also try to keep in touch with my teachers but they suddenly start talking to me as...get this...an ADULT! I never know how to act and get so flustered because I'm used to being a student (even with middle and elementary school teachers). The one thing about reading To Kill a Mockingbird that really stuck with me (not all the lessons about equality, etc) was Atticus being the same person to everyone (they mention that specifically about him). Ever since reading that part in 8th grade, I've been in awe and admiration of that characteristic...to maybe have different responsibilities but to play the same "role" with everyone.

I've started freaking out a little more lately because I've started thinking about kids and my mom always tells me she'd really enjoy being a grandmother, but the idea of visiting home pregnant is probably the most uncomfortable thing in the world to me (since the two roles would be clashing so obviously).

I'd never though about all this before but I'm guessing all this is an autistic thing (trouble with change, etc). It sucks because I'd love to be able to enjoy being an adult but I can't maintain any kind of proper relationship with anyone who knew me as a child because I'd be too confused over the role change.

Can I get a testimony?

im torn between loving my mother and hating her. everytime i want to forget about her worthless ass i somehow want to still care about her/ maybe its because shes s o pathetic. either way i wish i would just stop it

You're a bit young to be worried about that sort of thing now.

Parenthood just takes care of it all - don't worry, the emotions and roles sort themselves out - usually without any help.

Having kids wasn't really the focus of my post...

not that unique or lmited to autism either. Read more ilterature. Fathes who don't want their daughters to marry, or mothers who don't want their sons to move out. Daughters who don't want their widowed fathers to remarry. Men who want to date women who look like their mother/ or NOTHING like their mother. I find the parent /child relationship obscene myself, it has FAR too many sexual overtones for my taste. THat's why I don't want kids. Sorry about the spellng, my room is not heated...

I really don't have a problem with this. I've always been the same person. I've always been treated the same. Education, marriage, and children. I'm preparing myself for that, I'm sure it will happen. I'm actually looking forward to some aspects of it, so it wouldn't be that big of a deal.

I'm having the same kind of issues. I'm 22. For me, adulthood didn't change it.