Any 18+yr old who are still proned to whippings at home?

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I failed to flush the toilet, so my mom got angry and threatened to slap me. I was so angry at her for threatening such a thing that i felt worthless. Anger at myself, I threw things. My mad mama was angry at me for throwing things. i was frustrated and needed to throw things. Throwing things help me relieve stress. So she got angry and gave me a whipping. I told her to strangle me if she felt the need to have to whip an 18 year old. I told her she should have never had me. I never stayed up past midnight on a school night, but I stayed awake til 3:30am throwing things, i was so angry. i contemplated waking up early at 5:30 to run away, stealing valuable china to throw and break, and even turning the stove on to burn the house down. How dare she treat me like a f***ing child? (Excuse me, I never curse, I'm just that mad). After the whipping I felt so worthless, that I hit myself with a metal purse, it left a bruise, it felt good to hurt the person who caused herself to get a whipping at 18. I made a resolution never to get any whippings once I was 10 yrs old, I broke a promise to myself. I feel like a sorry ass b***h, eventhough I understand I have Autism, which makes it hard to control my emotions. Autism or not, no one is supposed to get a beating at 18. I wish so badly to make my mother feel bad for what she did. If I ran away, i'll laugh while she cries worrying. I feel like i'm the only adult going through this. She had no damn right to put her damn hands on me. i am considered an adult. Someone please respond with the same concern. I fell alone in this. Did I mention that i asked her to strngle me. Its been a month, and i still thinkg of running away and hurting her feelings. Yeah!

I am going to be very frank here and I hope you do not find it too offensive. No, nobody should be slapped or whipped. But you're talking about a lot of frightening things here, on both sides of the conflict. It's hard to tell where this all began, but it needs to stop. Do you have access to any kind of therapist, so you can talk with someone who can suggest a resolution? This isn't a good home life, but it doesn't sound like just one person is to blame for that... a therapist could help you determine if this really is an unsafe place for you, too and help you find a solution if that's the case. If your mom is reacting this way because she is faced with extreme behavior, that needs to be resolved. If she is the instigator, maybe you need another home.

If throwing things worries and frightens the people you live with, there must be something else you can do instead, to release stress. You talk about not wanting to be treated like a child, but that will require you to learn how to do adult things like manage your anger in ways that are not destructive.

Last edited by gwenevyn on 19 Feb 2008, 1:37 pm, edited 2 times in total.

You need to get out quick! What your mother\'s doing is a crime - full stop! If you\'re in the UK, you need to get in touch with Social Services a.s.a.p. You should be living in a safe place with people that understand autism. Please tell us what country your in and we will find you help.

No child of any age should be beaten...it is an archaic form of punishment. Parents who resort to beatings are not sensitive or
educated enough to know the severe consequences of their actions.

Corporal punishment doesn't teach anything to a child except to instill a deeper hatred for the parent doling out severe punishment as a beating. These parents need to learn better ways of showing disaproval of a child's behavior when it becomes
necessary.

I'm NT, and I had the exact feelings that you had at 18. My mother had done something, can't remember quite what it was, but it was some form of punishment that I felt was not appropriate to my age. We were living in London at the time, and I left for work early that morning, and didn't come home until midnight that night -- purely to make her worry. It really helps to be that young, and in a big city, where almost any bad thing could happen.

When I came home, nothing was said. But whatever it was that my mother had done, she never did it again.

Point is, you don't have to necessarily run away from home. You can leave for a day or two, and not let her know where you are. Let her worry and stew. BUT, when you come home, you have to force yourself to respond like an adult. No emotion, and no childlike behavior. You will have made your point, but you need to act like an independent person and prove that you can control yourself. Find a different way to relieve stress -- when I was 18 I would go for a run in the local park. Take a boxing class, if you need more physicality. Just do anything other than throwing things. I'm guessing that you want more control over your own life (that's what I wanted at 18), so if that's the case, you have to show control within yourself.

Kris

You could ring the police and tell them she assulted you if you really wanted to.

This is true, but be careful. If you did something violent, too, you will be held accountable. In my part of the world acts of domestic violence include threats, destroying another person's posessions, etc.--not just hitting a person.

Wait a minute....

See here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1187194.html

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