MASSIVE problem for tomorrow my refferal day

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My mother does not accept the fact I have these symptoms she just says I am antisocial and don't like people, I say to her I don't understand people or conversations. She refuses to go with me to my GP as a peer or paret. I think she is evil and many unmentioned swear words. I am thinking of asking my step father as think he is more likely to understand can someone please advise me I don't know what to do and am very stressed

It's good to have someone who is on your side.

I would say to go easy on the step father. Even if he is willing to help, he might get in trouble for contradicting his wife. Try him first, but don't get mad if he wants to stay neutral.

If that doesn't work, who else is around? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings...

By the way, your GP is probably worthless.

GPs are the only way in the UK I am showing the symptms to m mum and she has looked at the checklist which had many ticks.Other th that no family at all, how do you mean GP is worthless

Most shrinks don't even know what they're doing. Regular doctors tend to know less.

I can't find a good thread, but this one might be a little helpful.
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt99855.html

I think he means that your general practitioner probably wouldn't be the person that would diagnose Aspergers. The main thing you will want to accomplish in your appointment tomorrow is to get a referral to someone that could (Clinical Psychologist, Psychiatrist, Neurophysiologist). Hopefully your GP can refer you to someone who is experienced with Autism/Aspergers.

If you can't get someone to go along with you, then maybe you should bring in something in writing. I think you meantioned in another thread that you were already planning on bringing in a list of symptoms that you think you have. Going a step further and having something saying "I am here because I think I have Aspergers and would like a referral to a specialist experienced in diagnosing Autism/Aspergers" would be a good idea if you think you will become nervous and have trouble speaking or articulating yourself.

This appointment will likely be the first step in a LONG process. It's probably not what you want to hear, but hearing this may help you manage your expectations. In most cases people have to wait several moths before their first appointment in the assessment process. The assessment will likely include IQ tests, personality test, interviewing parents, and several appointments.

We all go through the "OMG, I just found out what's been different about me" and "I want confirmation that this explains things" stage when we discover Aspergers on our own as adults. We want answers as soon as possible. Unfortunately, getting these answers can take some time. In the long run, knowing that we receive the correct answer obtained accurately is best. Especially when we integrating the diagnosis into our perception of self in regards to how we view our past, present, and future. An example would be letting go of negative feelings towards ourselves for past social failure. It's hard to do that if you are questioning if your diagnosis was accurate or not.

Many of us have been where you are. We'll be here to talk to you if you need support while you go through the many things that come along with finding out "OMG, I've been autistic my entire life and never knew it".

So... Try to be strong if you have to go it alone tomorrow. There are people out in cyber world routing for you for what that's worth. Let us know how it goes tomorrow.

understad now yes in the UK now you have to go to a GP to see a clinical psychologist, it takes 3 months in my area. I am still reall glad its a female and I think my mum will accept the symptoms later as I am gng through it with her. I will be very assertive though I know I have to be to get what I want. I am naturally assertive in getting questions solved for some reasons,

for me its been an argious 6 year battle which I have known had AS symptoms, the routines, narrow intrests motor fine skills especially the Social problems I am fine typing up but when it comes face to face I fail. I have thought over an over that come in three months time if all goes as determined I will actually cry with relief I know I'm different I know why I'm different its just proving the point to a backward system.

I know though once I get to the psychologist referral it i fine becaue then I ca talk everything out TERRIFIED though but I know he will understand, I know the one in my county he is very good and understanding, we have only 2 psychologists in the city where I would be refferred so its logical ad easy to guess

in yur opinion am I not denying and finding excuses and does this sound like aspergers I have known three aspies an they say it does sound a lot like it

thak you and especially your long post

Yes, it sounds like you may have Asperger's. But of course I'm no professional and my opinion is only an opinion. I think you mentioned being dyslexic in another post, but if you can read without too much trouble I suggest reading a few books on Asperger's. Tony Attwood's "Complete guide to Asperger's" is good for understanding how some of the symptoms are manifested with more of an explanation than you get by looking at the diagnostic criteria in the DSM IV. Michael John Carley's "Aperger's from inside out" is good for analyzing how Asperger's in a part of who you are.

I have a reading disorder myself. I was in special classes for it when I was in school. Reading tires me our quickly and sometimes gives me headaches, so it's not something I do for fun. But these books were very helpful to me and I suggest reading them if you can.

I am more dyslexic the aspects of finetics and taking words apart nd spellingthem out howeever des to wat is more likely aspergers I have a 130 IQ and from speaking was quite verbose s its a double bladed sword could not read til 6 but after that it ws plain sailing, my ain dyslexia issues is with numbers and sequencig even though I can play piano I have a poor memory but excellent long term I am going to wrie some stuff about my school days and teens,

In england we have a ten called luke jackson an aspie who wrote when he was 13 of his own experiences alsoI have a visual memory especially with words and pictures