Are you naturally drawn to other Aspies?

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Do you find yourself naturally drawn to others who exhibit Asperger-like personalities?

I got my diagnosis very recently, and I now feel that everyone around me has AS. It's quite possible that they do, and I was unconsciously drawn to them.

It depends on the person.

Well, I think one reason I used to attend Star Trek conventions was because I sensed the people there were imaginative and more like me than the rest of society tended to be.

I think there's only one person that I know who may be an Aspie. He's awkward and VERY set in his routines, extremely inflexible. Anyway, I don't think he likes me. Every time I try and have a conversation with him, there are two phases: first, I get the feeling that I'm bothering him and he doesn't want me around. Second, we get going about some topic or other, and he starts stating his beliefs in a very passioniate way, and I feel like I have to sympathize and agree with him, or else things will get ugly.

Yes, I do. In fact, I generally seem to like only people who exhibit Asperger-like personalities.

I find that I gravitate towards people who have AS type qualities. My two best friends have such qualities.

Apparently so since I keep meeting people with it and becomimg their friends...not to mention I am dating one for the second time.

Of my 5 real life friends, 3 of them exhibit AS symptoms. One of them I know defenantly has AS (although I've never confronted him about it, nor have I told him that I have it). The other two NT friends just started talking to me. One of them just decided to come to my house, ring my doorbell, and ask me to "hang out". It was extremely wierd/awkward. The other one just started talking to me because we sat next to eachother in my programming class.

I can't say if I would or not since I'm ALL alone in my neck of the woods. *Sigh*

Before I learned about AS last December I had no idea why I was drawn to women that were so different in their looks and in their personalities. I had decided that I just went by some weird instinct I could not explain.

After learning of AS and giving it a lot of thought I discovered all the girls I was attracted to and drawn to had a few things in common: they were socially awkward as well.

The shy types.
The chatty types that fail to say what they tried to say
The insecure types that ended up doing everything right.
The overly secure types that obsessed over minutiae and failed at the big picture
The loner types that tried to be part of a group albeit on the outskirts of the friends circles

They were also all very wise. I do not use the word smart because some were not very intelligent.. but rather they said and did things that you would not expect to see or hear from anyone else. Old souls I guess. However meeting these girls was extremely rare. In my 30 years I've only met 7 girls like that and most I never saw again in class or in college after a week.

In this forum i've seen many ladies that have amazing minds and some that are a combination of smarts and old souls ... it's incredible really. I'm convinced that if I ever will meet my other half she'll definitely be AS or darn close to it.

I don't feel like that.

I'm not drawn to any personality type. The ones I like, including all my friends are very different from each other, all the way down to their core.

I let fate decide who I meet. Or something like that... well, I didn't pick to be friends with ANY of them. I just happened to meet them, happened to befriend them without knowing and still happen to be friends with them. How come and why is beyond my grasp.

None of them except one show a behaviour that is similar to autistic behaviour. One is gifted, that's why she exhibits similar to symptoms that are found in autism.

Oh well, I take the 'no similarities' back. All my friends are exceptionally accepting of differences. That's what they all have in common.

I'm drawn to people that accept differences. It's a personality trait that can appear in anybody.

But it's always nice to chat with someone who has an idea of what autism can mean of course!

I'm not drawn to anyone (I've been drawn to an individual, but she's not anyone; whether she's autistic or not is meaningless).

What's an "autistic" personality? Autism is best described as a template compared to a personality; it's a set of symptoms that can manifest in every person that you can see around; if you're drawn to the symptoms that someone exhibits, then I guess you're probably feeling a sympathetic reaction to them, you feel their "pain" or lack of social gain (or whatever), and that's a connection.

No, I'm usually drawn away from people who give off noticeably autistic vibes. If they're just quiet, that's one thing, but I usually ignore people if they stim or anything like that.