Does anyone else need specific directions about where...

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something is?

Because I sure do. At work yesterday, a guest asked for an ice bucket and I look for an ice bucket but couldn't find one on any of the shelves so I beep my office clerk and ask her where are the ice buckets and she said to look in the storage closet but I told her I looked everywhere in there, I don't see any. Then she tells me to take one out of a room and tells me which one so I take it out of there and bring it to another room the guest asked for.
Then later in the day, another guest asks for an ice bucket and I tell the office clerk what room to take another ice bucket from and she says she has one and she'll show me, so I come back down to the housekeeping office and I see her with a ice bucket and I ask her where did she get it and she said in the closet and I said "where?" and she said in the closet. I go in there again and start looking and she says "No, in the corner in the box." I turn around and look in the corner where the door is and to the right is boxes stacked up and I look inside and see there are brand new ice buckets in them.

If she would have told me "In the closet to the left in the top box. There are some in there," I would have found them. Telling me "In the closet" doesn't do me anything because I don't know where to look so I will look what I can see and the boxes weren't labeled anyway except for the ones on the shelf.

If I am looking for something at home and I ask my boyfriend where is(insert object here) and he says in the kitchen, he has to tell me where in the kitchen. If the object is on the counter, I will find it but if it's in the drawer or whatever, he has to tell me where.

This must not be an NT thing because at work when I told the office clerk I need specific directions where something is, she told me she isn't babysitting me and that hurt. As if she expects me to know where something is at without having to be told specifically. Of course she apologized later when I was going to lunch and I said "okay."
I don't know what made her apologize but I'd love to know but I was too afraid to ask.

I have the same problem. I cannot find anything unless I'm told specifically where to look. My mom used to get very frustrated with me because she assumed I wasn't actually looking for things because I didn't want to have to pick anything up or move things around to find them, but really, I just had absolutely no clue where to start looking for something.

It's like instant overstimulation to go into an area full of all kinds of things and be told to find something without even a hint as to where to look...

I have this problem in regards to needing to do things such as cleaning as well. If I do not have a list to tell me what order to do things, I'll just walk in circles flinging my hands in the air because I have no clue where to start, and I can't even tell what needs to be done sometimes.

'Tis annoying what she said about her not babysitting you... yet, at the same time that I would be highly agitated by that, I also think sometimes that I do need a full-time babysitter to make sure I do what I need to, lol.

I have the same problem. A lot of the time I'll need very detailed or explicit directions for where something is or else I literally will not see it even if it is right in front of my face. It's as if quick "scanning" glances are not enough for my brain's object recognition machinery to work. This probably stems from our tendency to perceive only parts of objects instead of the whole "gestalt" object, when we are doing quick scanning glances when looking for the ice bucket we only perceive the parts of the ice bucket instead of the whole bucket and thus don't recognize the bucket. I often have difficulty finding my keys because of this, if they are not in a place I usually set them (my picture stand by my entryway or on my kitchen table) I will often not recognize them as my keys because I context isn't right. This leads to endless problems because people assume I'm just "too lazy to look."

This happens to me all the time and i just wish people were more clear cut.

I used to be like that. I am better at finding things now.. I have the system of just scrambling madly through everything until I find it.

Specific instructions help. I am not good at keeping track of objects in my bedroom either.

I often feel sort of 'blind' when looking for something in a general location..then someone else will come in and take 1 second and see it!
I have a similar problem if someone 'helps' me by getting something out of a drawer etc ready for me to use; I end up not seeing the item, and searching for it where it should be.

It's the same for me.
Actually I need specific instructions in general.
If someone tells me to "bring the cup" for example I very likely won't know what they mean, even though they seem to think it's clear (from the context, because they where just talking about it half an hour ago or lord knows from what). I need to know WHICH cup exactly (and please don't tell me "the green one" when there are three different green ones) and WHERE exactly to find it. It annoys the heck out of people as they seem to always think I'm stupid or acting stupid (which I DON'T, I just don't get why they can't be more specific).

Here too! Maalways sent me in the cellar to fetch something and I couldn't find it because she was very vague with her directions

I also tend to not notice something in front of me and it makes me feel dumb.