fight with grandma and aunty

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Today I went around to my grandma and aunty's place my grandma is 94. I am now nearly 28 yet my grandma keeps bringing up things I am supposed to have done as a child that to me were no big deal and other family members have done stuff like it too. When I was three I allegedly took off my clothes and did summersaults in the doctors waiting room my grandma keeps going on about how it was "embarrasing" and that my brother said to me another time you could "see up my bottom". My opinion is so what and that is what kids do if I was 13 sure it would have been embarrasing at 3 children should not be ashamed of their bodies and I apprently wasn't my mum was there and she thinks it was no big deal either. Other family members did similar things like walking down the street naked and weeing on my grandma's knee yet these are made out to be no big deal or not embarrasing. This makes me feel singled out and percecuted this is especially hurtful as I am already different.

Tonight the fight was about this incident and me telling my grandma how this felt my aunt always stands up for my grandma and makes her out to be some sort of patron saint. My aunt was getting in my face calling me badly behaved and a spoilt little brat by this stage I was very very upset and I unfortunately slapped her which I deeply regret now. I do not however regret speaking my mind and never will. I am still very upset about it and dont really know what to do from here obviously I will keep my distance for a few days but will see them sometime soon.

For what it is worth, my mother does the SAME with me! She even talks about times BEFORE 3! She EVEN attributes purpose, etc... to some things that I KNOW isn't true. Some I have explained to her for DECADES, even on the minute of the incident.

It is very hurtful and I especially hate my grandma being "un touchable" from being told this it doesnt matter weather you are 94 or 24 being critical like that is wrong.

YEAH, I wasn't condoning their behaviour. It is WRONG, HEARTLESS, and STUPID! BUT, it seems MANY do it, so I wanted to let you know you aren't alone. I know that doesn't mean much, but I just wanted to throw in my two cents.

Thanks for your support thats good to know I at least react differently to such things I saw a little boy runninbg through the supermarket maked the other day to me it is cute more than anything and especially not something to be made a big deal of.

before anyone knew aspergers existed, (like it never existed at all) my family used to compair me to this dude who wasnt even related to me all the time. i hated it

Your grandmother is very elderly. She is probably suffering from some dementia. I've seen this with my dad's mom. She was never a very nice person, but she has gotten so much worse as she's gotten older. She repeats herself all the time. She also repeatedly brings up my divorce and anything else that will annoy me. She comments on my son's behavior (HFA) and says that he's spoiled rotten. I stay away from her as much as possible. Before I go see her (when I'm forced to see her), I give myself a pep talk and tell myself that no matter how darn aggravating she is...i will say nothing, just "uh-uhh, yeah, hmmm" and nod my head because her words are not worth raising my blood pressure. I cut the visit short when she really makes me mad.

I know you feel bad about slapping your aunt, but I have to say what I always tell my son....never hit another person no matter how angry you get. My son will do that sometimes and I fear he'll do it as an adult and someone will call the cops on him. You can't get in trouble if you don't make physical contact.

its a grandma's job to remind everyone of times past.


plus its a kind of payback tradition.. it was done to her so now its her turn to pass the ball.


wait till you're 90, i'm sure you'll love doing that too

I don't understand the idea of because something nasty was done to you then it's fun to do something nasty to someone else to "pass it on". I see it a lot but I don't get it.