Do people "wonder" about you in a bad way?

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I feel like people "wonder" about me, in the sense that they don't know "what" I am and it scares them or something.

I have a really hard time making friends. What happens is, people I'm chatting with will fire a bunch of questions, like:

"You know, I don't feel like I really know you..... What are your goals? Do you have any?"

It doesn't help that I have very limited interests and that it is rarely anything that people can relate to

People feel uncomfortable, because they can't pigeonhole me or something....

"WHO are you really?" (I wasn't asked this exact question, but a number of people have asked probing questions that seemed to boil down to their puzzlement over something "alien")

I guess it is just weird to people that I'm just existing....

The problem is, I can never tell anyone how horribly depressed & anxious I get

Yes! And it makes me angry. If they were to really get to know me, then I think they'd be surprised how deep I am. I'm just quiet.

Google actually hires on the basis of "comfort with ambiguity" & they're merely the top of that list. I'd applied all over their firm before & only now that I've completely dropped off the map regarding their usual hiring practices do they continue sending me nibbles. I experience a lot of this & thankfully it's almost totally unsubstantiated. Overall it's not a bad thing for people to be curious about you.

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Sure, and I let them. Unless I trust them, or distrust enough for different reasons...

Let their imagination run wild. As long as they're not bothering my life with it. After all, they don't know the facts. If they really want to know me, they will have to come to me regardless their assumptions.

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Yes, people have been wondering about me, and they weren't even shy about it a lot of times. My grandpa used to believe that I was gay for over a year because I didn't have a girlfriend and didn't like talking about it. He didn't say it out loud, just gave me signs I didn't understand, like "How are the girls at school?" "Okay, I guess." "Okay? Ooooh, I seeee!" I thought he was just acting weird and childish until my grandma told me.

Also, my dorm roommates can't stop noticing and commenting on the ways I make food, the time I wake up, my morning coffee, the games I play, and basically everything I do. This is why I don't like people: they can't stop comparing me to themselves and commenting on our differences. The world would be a much nicer place if people could accept my existence without overthinking, and bothering me about it.

I have no concept of what other people think of me. Worst question to ask me is "Why do you think 'they' would do that? It's been asked and I have never had an answer. Last person I kinda went off on asking why people think I should know what others think.

Basically, everybody else is a mystery to me.

Hah yeah that is something I get a lot.

Really annoys me. Like I'm quiet, I keep myself to myself, I don't over share and I don't like to talk a huge amount! Stop trying to 'figure me out'. People don't trust me I think. When you are very quiet they can't get a fix on you and it makes them uncomfortable. It has its advantages, like a job I used to work I was known for my 'poker face' and my ability to give nothing away and be impossible to read when in difficult situations. Other times I feel people pulling away as though I am something evil or threatening.

'oh we don't really know you though' ...oh piss off.

I think I must seem very blank to people, very little coming out. Makes people 'wonder'. I just exist and do my own thing and people seem utterly perplexed by that. I don't get it.

Also yes AusWolf I get people commenting on things I do, the way I do things etc. I don't know why people do this, I thought it was just me that got it. As soon as something is in any way different people comment and it drives me f*****g insane

'oh.. thats a very unusual way of doing that' ... is it, is it really that shocking??