do you think an aspie could survive living with a billet

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my son who I believe very strongly has aspergers, is being courted by out of town hockey teams to play in the WHL ( a league where they draft for the NHL) If he is drafted to a team it would mean that he could go to live hundreds of miles away , with a family of strangers, at the age of 15 or 16. It is his dream to play in this league. It scares me to death, but how could I say no? He is used to being one of the best players on the team, and manages some form of respect from his team mates for that. I can only imagine that he would be one of the weaker players on a WHL team and I am not sure if he could handle that socially or emotionally. any thoughts?

Sure you will have worries and concerns...my nephew, at the age of twelve, was chosen to be a young Ambassador in a scholastic program that exists in the USA. Most young people selected are 16 or 17 years old...and my nephew was uniquely
chosen at 12 years old to travel to Great Britain, Scotland and Wales. His mom and dad simply put appropriate and adequate measures in place to safeguard his security and the adults overseeing the activities of the Young Ambassador Program were well aware of his much younger age compared to the other, older teens in their charge. It was a great experience...and looked great on his college application. Currently, he is in his freshman year at Cornell University in Ithaca, New York.

If he is eager and excited to grasp this unique opportunity, give him that chance...and put the proper things in place that he needs to make it a successful and rewarding experience.

Good luck!

I'm a bit older, but the moment I turned 18 I left home to travel the world... there's no reason why AS should hold anyone back from doing anything. Just make sure he's prepared, he knows how to cope if he feels a bit of a meltdown coming on, he knows what to expect, etc etc.

He should be given a chance to pursue his dream. There's no guarantee he will succeed, but how could you let him go on wondering what could have been? If he does fail, then he can be happy to know he gave it a shot. And of course, if he succeeds that would be even better.

I would tell him to go for his dream. Everyone starts at the bottom when they are in a higher category. Eventually, if given the chance, he will advance.

You should tell him if he wants it he should go for it but also say that at any time if things arent what he expected and he doesnt like it then he should call you and you will bring him home.

First of all I would like to congratulate you and your son for all the hard work to get accepted into WHL, that really shows alot of commitment and dedication to accomplish. He's got such a great opportunity at doing something he loves to do, don't go and ruin it by holding him back, because he has aspergers, sure he's going to be away from home, but so are all his team mates. I am sure there are a few players in the NHL who have aspergers, who don't even know they have the condition.

of course. people need to live thier own lives