What NTs take for granted...

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not being always the scapegoat in the group

having someone to go for lunch with at work

and so, so much more.

Being able to carry on a conversation without that akward silence of what now do I say?

Being able to have small chats with ppl instead of long chats dealing with topics.

Knowing that, when they join a group (work, volunteer, hobby, whatever) they will probably make at least one friend/aquaintance that they can hang out with during breaks, lunch or other down time, and probably will even do things outside the group with them (except maybe work--not everyone, even NT's, always like hanging with co-workers after work).

Knowing that if they do get in a new situation, they won't be afraid to try to make friends because even if they do, the new friends will be their only friends and will know that, and will feel sorry for them or not want to be friends with them anymore.

Knowing they won't be the oddball of the group.

Knowing if they walk down the street or past a group of co-workers and hear laughter, it's probably not at them.

Knowing that if their co-worker who sits on the other side of a partition is giggling at something someone on the other end of the phone said, they're probably not laughing at them or talking about what a weird co-worker they are and how they wish they didn't have to sit on the other side of the partition with them (this happens to me almost every day).

Being able to join in conversations.

Not being afraid to have their birthday acknowledged at work because they're afraid no one will write anything on their card, or if they do it'll just be their name, when they know that that's not the case with anyone else.

When someone who has been with their company a long time leaves, they don't think "Oh, I bet he'll invite everyone but me out for drinks after work his last day."

When they do get invited to something, they don't get paralyzed with fear that they will do something wrong and lose what few friends they have, or get fired if it's a work gathering. (NT's with social anxiety still have this fear however, but in their case it's unjustified, though no less scary.)

never have to worry about meltdowns

Things taken for granted. Yeah. Here are some things we both can do, that many people I meet take for granted.

-Being able to relax with objects in motion, and/or to be mesmerized by things that they don't care to see the beauty in. Example: water in slow motion. Relaxing, beautiful, mesmerizing, with colors of light reflecting off the surfaces. A substance under your control by the turn of a single handle.

-To not be stressed by details.

-The blessings and curses of sensory abilities.

-To be able to, and have to almost constantly explore how your thinking works, and actauly noticeing the differences when they happen.

-To think in more undiscriminate ways, and see the world as one big canvas, and other people as being alike to each other.

-To know that speach is not the only way of thinking and knowledge.

-To feel frustrated in your own percieved flaws, and desire to correct them.

Granted, I don't do all of these. I'm just sayin...

Oh Norah, all that in your posts is so heart-wrenchingly me!! !!

being able to walk into a busy place and not feel totally overwhelmed

being able to "read" people.
they know when somebody is upset

Being able to access their community,without it setting off headbanging and flesh biting,severe crippling sensory and information overload setoff meltdowns with seizures,sensory scrambling [losing eyesight because of other strong sensory input],being able to communicate verbally with everyone else in their community and not having to relie on others to do it,and then- not being treated like a toddler for it,not having to wear earplugs and eardefenders ontop everywhere.

Being able to cope with change,without MDs and seizures,head banging and flesh biting etc.

Being able to go in any shop no matter what overload shops have going on.

Having showers or baths [water on their skin] like it is nothing.

Being able to go to the hair dressers,and get their hair cut.

Being able to cope with noises such as fireworks or lawn mowers,or stay in the same building as switched on hair dryers,hoovers etc.

Being able to cope with processing more than one instruction at a time.


Could come up with a load more but it's all bad stuff which don't want to think about.
All humans probably have something easy and natural to them,like breathing which some find nearly impossible.

I second being able to read people. Oh, and not having the overanalysis problem.

Choosing the right volume for their voice in speech.

Being able to give perfect eye-contact.

Not getting nervous before crucial events, such as a job interview, or at least not so nervous that they perform well below what their performance at their current job would indicate.

Knowing all the perfect answers to all the questions, especially the social scenarios, and acing the interview.

Otherwise, I don't have that many worries. I feel almost guilty being on this site in the first place. First of all, I am only self-diagnosed and secondly, I think my problems stem from not reaching what I believe is my full potential. I should just concentrate on where I am now, which is really a good place.

Not flubbing up incredibly simple requests, such as "Unlatch that door for me."

On the NTake topic

They are blissfully unaware of their social ease.

Their body movements are smooth and effortless.

They are valued co-workers and trusted by subordinates and employers.

They use art, technology, cultural achievements and science to further their personal and professional lives.

They are the lucky ones.