How do you cope?

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Is there anyone else out there that has reached the point of saying "f**k it" and actually getting out there and mixing it up with people. I'm trying to find people that are as advanced as what I am so we can compare how we handle social situations and learn from each other.

Do you mean meeting more aspies and comparing notes with them, or learning to communicate better in general?

yeah, meeting more aspies and comparing notes. Just seeing how others cope with social interactions and see if I can learn something new that I havent tried.

Your welcome to read my story via my site below, I do pop in here from time to time just to Aspie chat, but quite busy educating the planet

I must confess, I don't care much for meeting Aspies in person.
they really take a lot of out me, energy wise, and I rarely have met any I actually have much in common with them.

Even on WP, my tastes are rarified.

Merle

I am always trying to get out there and be social. Sometimes it is frustrating and depressing, and sometimes it is tolerable. It has not been rewarding yet but I keep on trying. I'd also like to hear how others cope.

I still havent got over that hump. I only socialize when I "have to go somewhere"

Are any of you "good with the ladies"?

How do you go about approaching them. I usually sit back and just wait for an opening where I feel comfortable or they just approach me.

im pretty sure that ben campbell has it down.

I find it's easier for me if I stay in places and situations I know. I'm Jewish and there are lots of events such as Friday night dinners for young adults. Going to them I know what will happen, what things to say and what kind of people will be there. Still I often find it exhausting and sometimes difficult; sometimes I'll sit at dinner and won't talk to anyone. But its somewhere where I can push myself but stay in a safe zone. The thought of going out anywhere else socially or going on a date terrifies me though.

I really don't have a problem being out with people as long as we are talking about something interesting like politics, science, history, etc. and not inane small talk