Misunderstandings, anger and taking things out on peopla

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Have you ever APPEARED to be angry but you weren't; that it's just fear and for some reason it looks and sounds like anger?


Have you ever been angry but not at anyone, but APPEARED to be mad at the people you are with?


Have you ever been angry at someone, but not the person you are talking to right now, but you APPEARED to be mad at the person you're talking to right now?


Have you ever hurt someone you cared about or was the most important person in the world to you because you did one of the above, or rather, it just happened to you? I did all three of these in just one conversation just now and it's killing me. He got annoyed at me. He didn't understand what I meant or something. He told me he really didn't think he deserved to be treated like that. This was after I told him that I felt really scared, like someone could come to the door saying they were there to get me, or I could be sectioned or something at the request of a family member, and I know it's all paranoia, but I PROMISE it's not on purpose or to get attention! He said "You're making this up." I thought at first that he meant I was making it up to get attention or as he put it, "To have something to be upset about." The way it was put there sounded so vile. I guess I'm used to being mollycoddled by my friends and told "All of us get depressed and everyone can't help feeling bad when they're depressed." Anyway, I thought he meant something he didn't mean, and then he had no idea why I had the miscommunication with him because he hadn't SAID that he thought I was making it up on purpose or that I was trying to get attention, and therefore, I was supposed to assume he didn't think that. Or something; I don't know. He had meant, it turns out, that he thought my head was manufacturing it, because where else could it come from? But when most people say "You're making it up", they mean "You're lying, knowing full well that you're lying, to gain something." When I told him that he said "Oh yeah? Why is that true? Where did you get that?" "because it happens!" I said. Meaning it happened to me. Whenever someone told me or someone else they were making things up, they always meant "You're lying for some sort of gain". So I was going from experience. I said "There are many ways that phrase "You're making it up" can be interpreted." He said "No, actually, how can it be? It's simple. It menas what it means."


I feel like my life is ruined.

Sometimes I'm neutral and people think I'm angry.

My emotions get all mixed up. I very rarely get angry, and when I do it is a fury! However, I sometimes appear to be angry I have been told, when I am infact not experiencing any real emotional stimulus or I am just frustrated (usually by someone else's stupidity)

Yes to the first one,so many times,on here even when have posted a photo,it does not seem to matter to people am do not even recognise or understand 'anger'.

It is extremely rare for me to get angry and when i am angry people hardly ever notice. If i get into a debate or just get too comfortable talking to someone my voice gets louder than normal and i talk a lot more, i also stim if I'm absorbed in a conversation. My leg will move up and down in a quick shaking motion, or close and open my hand alot, or fidget with something like an ink pen. This seems to give the impression that i am angry or frustrated when in fact it is the complete opposite.

I'm not sure if this was all completely relevant to this topic but it does bother me more than most of my problems and i wanted to post it.

Well, I usually think out loud- and if I'm thinking of something that has a lot of energy to it or something- for instance, a powerful song, or scene from a movie, I look angry. In fact, I was at work yesterday, and my co-worker passed by me, and saw me dancing back and forth at my station, and she asked "what are you listening to?" To which I responded "the music in my head"

She thought it was funny, but creepy