It's made me so much stronger than I ever would have been had I not had to deal with all the issues that come with it.
I'm very self-aware; I need to be to avoid meltdown, so I know exactly where I'm at emotionally and physically and mentally, and what my triggers are, what I need to do when etc. Self-awareness is a big bonus.
Empathy. I know they say people on the spectrum lack empathy, but when you've been through the bullying and the lack of social awareness and the hassles that go alongside, I find myself empathising with other people caught on the fringe and left out of things a lot. If someone's going through a bad time, I can empathise and help them. I may miss a cue, but I can still empathise and feel for them, offer a hug etc.
Social awareness. Yes, I don't pick it up intuitively and I've had to teach myself what to say and do and what's ok and what isn't etc, and although I do stupid things still myself, I can watch other people from the outside and tell you exactly what's going on when I see an interaction - who the happy one is, when someone's upsetting the other person without realising, when someone fancies someone else, etc. From a voyeuristic point of view I pick up cues better than anyone else around me - I just fail to apply it to my own life.
Strength of character. AS means I have strong morals and ideas of what's right and wrong, and as such I never went off the rails so to speak as a teenager, and so never ran into any of the problems that my friends did. Smoking weed is bad, so I wouldn't do it. Getting totally smashed is bad, so I didn't do it. Lying is bad, so I wouldn't do it (little white lies, perhaps, but I cannot do out and out ones!). Etc etc etc. And in doing that, I've found more than a few times I've had to stand up for myself or others around me in the same uncomfortable situation of peer pressure and told the people doing the 'peer pressure' where to go, so to speak. This has left me again, a stronger person for it.
I'm very outgoing now. I think a lack of awareness socially leaves me less open to embarassment because I simply do not care what others think of me. This means I can happily do my own thing and talk for hours and do public speaking and whatever else, staying true to myself, because I really don't care what other people's opinions are.
Obsessions - whoever said this was a bad thing?! My obsessions have meant I consistently have something to occupy me throughout life, rather than crying the eternal childhood line of 'I'm boooooored!", they've meant I've ended up well read and well spoken and have met some amazing people along the way. They've meant I know where I want to go and what I want to do in life, without the confusion people get. They've given me great experiences, and hey, it's just nice knowing stuff about stuff, ya know?!
I could go on and on and on... I love Asperger's. Yes, it's bloody tough to deal with and it can be a real pain and leave you a wreck both physically and emotionally. But it's only ever temporary, and every time something goes wrong because of it, I learn from it and it makes me a better, bigger, stronger person. Aspergers gives me drive, inner strength, determination, stubbornness, stickability, a never-give-up attitude... for all the problems it presents me with, the good things are always bigger and better.
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