Can anyone figure this out?

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Can anyone figure this out? I went to a country bar and was talking just socializing with a guy. He told me his name and that he was just visitng Hawaii. We talked just here and there as we played pool. Then he asked me if I was married. I said yes. He then asked were is your ring? I told him it was in the shop (its getting repaired), then he said "oh how convient". I was so upset that he did not beleive me. I mean I don't think their are to many women that would actually tell the truth....anyway, i got in his face and went off on him for not beleiving me. Then he told me to relax because he alreadly knew I was married. (He had been asking around about me apparently.)

Now does this make ANY SENSE? Why would he ask me if I was married, give me a hard time when I tell him my ring is in the shop, and then tell me he knew I was married anyway?

I do not understand what happened, or why...can anyone explain this to me?

In what way did he say

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When I first read it I assumed he meant that he was jokingly saying you took it off so you could flirt with men in the bar, but it depends on how it was said.

There are alot of seedy men in bars, and they just assume that women like to hit on men all the time like they like to hit on women.

Here's my less-than-kind guess.

He was hitting on you, wanting sex, though not actually expecting to get any. He was playing probabilities. (If he hadn't hit on you, probability of having sex with you was zero. Hitting on you made the probability higher, even if he figured it was low. He probably had success with the technique with other women.)

The marriage question was a line, albeit a convenient one. It was a way to begin a conversation with you. When you didn't have your ring, he was pushing. He wanted sex, again, not actually expecting anything, but hoping you'd removed your ring because you were looking for sex. The "how convenient" comment was another trolling comment. It meant nothing, other than he was looking for sex.

He didn't expect you to be honest because he wasn't honest.

Whereas you said exactly what you wanted to say, he was saying anything he could to manipulate you for sex.

In other words, he was a jerk.

You didn't do anything wrong!

I think he was being a flirtacious jackass, plain and simple. You did nothing wrong. My question here: Was he sober?

Thanks guys, I understand now....

Since he already knew you were married, he was probably wanting to get around to the subject of your ring and that you didn't have it on and thus the REASON as to why you didn't have it on. Although he clearly had already made up his mind (incorrectly) about why you didn't have it on.

He probably thought you had it off cause you were trying to pick up guys and some might not like (if you had been trying to pick up guys) that ring on your finger.

He was trying to be sly. And flirtatious. And likely get you in bed. He was probably using the "ring" question to judge whether you wanted to get into bed, too, and/or to approach the subject to begin with. He just made the wrong assumption: that you had purposely not worn your ring to go out "hunting".