Purplefluffychainsaw wrote:
I thought that one of the differences was that people with AS /want/ to be social, whereas people with HFA don't. Has anyone else heard that too?
I was diagnosed HFA because I had speech delays when I was a kid (~1998), but my mum thinks that if I was diagnosed more recently I would have been diagnosed with AS.
I have heard it, but it's not true.
I've also heard just about all forms of that one. Here are the versions I've heard (the divisions don't reflect my beliefs, just the various common almost... urban legends or something... regarding autism and socialization):
- AS people want to socialize and don't know how. HFA people don't want to socialize. LFA people don't even know what socializing is, so can't possibly want it.
- AS and HFA people want to socialize but don't know how. LFA people don't even know what socializing is, so can't possibly want it.
- AS people are introverted despite being more capable of socializing than any other autistic people, they just don't want to. HFA people want to socialize but don't know how. LFA people don't even know what socializing is, so can't possibly want it.
- AS people are introverted despite being more capable of socializing than any other autistic people, they just don't want to. HFA people want to socialize but don't know how. LFA people want very much to socialize, and may even have excellent understanding of other people's socialization, but can't get their bodies to look as if they show interest in socializing.
- AS and HFA people are introverted despite being more capable of socializing than any other autistic people, they just don't want to. LFA people want very much to socialize, and may even have excellent understanding of other people's socialization, but can't get their bodies to look as if they show interest in socializing.
- AS and HFA people are introverted despite being more capable of socializing than any other autistic people, they just don't want to. LFA people fail to socialize in the normal way because they're telepaths and don't need to socialize in the normal way.
- AS and HFA people want badly to socialize but have poor social skills. LFA people fail to socialize in the normal way because they're telepaths and don't need to socialize in the normal way, and have way better social skills than AS and HFA people.
Yeah, some of those are really weird, but those are the combinations I've generally heard.
Which is to say, yes I've heard it, but I've also heard all the other combinations, so it doesn't mean a lot to me.
I'm diagnosed with autism, just autism (not HFA, not LFA, although at one point in the past my records described me as "low functioning" for reasons I'm not clear on). And I have always been suspicious of the divides there, because they don't match my actual observations.
I'm fairly introverted, and have difficulty initiating (there have been times when I could initiate by walking up to someone and saying a bunch of weird stuff, but overall that is rare and difficult), but I can often socialize (and sometimes want to) if someone else starts it.
When I was a teenager, I remember someone telling me that I was clearly non-social and wanted nothing to do with anyone else. This confused me, because I was actually very uncomfortable with not being included in interactions with other people. I was not able to start conversations or to use body language to show interest, so it was assumed I had no interest.
That is why I am skeptical of claims that autistic people simply don't want to socialize unless we're AS. My guess is that people likely to be diagnosed with AS are among the best at initiating interactions overall, and therefore get seen more as "wanting to socialize and not knowing how". Whereas the rest of us, if we want to socialize, we
might be able to do the "active but odd" initiating in weird ways sort of thing, but we're much less likely to be able to do so, so it's just
assumed about us that we don't want to socialize.
I think that in reality, autistic people overall (of all sorts) have the full range of wanting to socialize and not wanting to socialize. I think, though, that some of us can get pushed into not socializing by bad experiences, by overload, by unawareness, or other things, despite possibly otherwise having the same innate desire or lack thereof as anyone else if we were in other circumstances. But overall, I think the range is pretty wide.
I also think sometimes autistic people think the definition of socializing is doing something very specific, one specific kind of socializing, and don't realize that, say, posting on a board like this and receiving responses is a form of socializing as well, even if it's purely on factual topics or whatever.
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