Do people say you're crazy when they notice you're different

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Have people gossiped and talked about you like you were crazy? whispered.. "He's crazy"... or "she's crazy".... because we're different and they haven't even bothered to try and talk with you? People assign this label to just about anyone that seems different it seems... before they ever get to know you... What it does is spread gossip to where it makes it difficult to meet anyone because a lot of people are gossiping and spreading what they heard from someone that never even really talked with you....

I've gone to different towns to try and start over, but all it takes is one person who notices that I am different or gets offended because I don't "respect" their body language, when I didn't even see it in the first place... Next thing I know, I'm labeled again without anyone really EVER getting to know me.....

Do other people have these problems?

Yeah, but I've learned to just go with it and only care about the people's opinions that actually matter--like the ones who know me.

It just makes it so hard to meet people in a new city, especially if they're really cliquey or into the ubercool stuff.. like the music people i meet sometimes... I love music, but the level of sophistication of the social requirements are so beyond me... i try to do my best, but always end up coming across "a little bit different".. enough to sometimes get a person gossiping... especially if I inadvertently offend by not recognizing some subtle social cue...

We really aren't "crazy" just different... I've been described as musically gifted so there's a plus to it all... but... people don't see that right away... they just see someone who is "different" and don't usually want anything to do with someone like that... they aren't "cool" all the time... and people in those circles don't want to risk even talking to someone who isn't... I shouldn't let it bother me so... it's just hard trying to meet other musicians in those circles.. I have a few friends and some people to jam with, so I'm grateful for that at least.. It's so much easier when I have someone to go out with.. tonight I just went out alone and felt kindof out of place at times... and a couple of people looked at me wierdly.. maybe because I don't appear as confident as most people... It's hard to feel confident with the difficulties with social problems associated with being on the spectrum.... I doubt I'll ever feel confident in those situations... I DID hear some good music at least ...

Once I was told 'You really are crazy!' by a teacher

As for meeting new people: maybe you'll eventually meet someone who's as 'crazy' as you

Not only do they say it, they go out of their way to make me feel guilty over it as well!

I try to avoid those people - but sometimes it's impossible. The work place is a great example of this. It's partly why I don't work, but then there is the issue of a senior medical officer saying I can't work anyway!

I've been called "eccentric," and that was by a teacher. I don't think I've heard "crazy" yet, but I think that's just a matter of time.

I do tell other people that I'm crazy sometimes.

Yes I do see a problem of allot of people been easy manipulated by the mass of voices, hell I bet someone could make someone believe that you’re from mars with some of them, or you pulled a Boeing 747 with your nose...

People that matter are the ones who bother not listening to it & go for the getting to know you rather than what they hear about people, one of them NT thing's that is just nuts, why people call them sheep, & you’re the outsider...

You will always get them people who care more about the way they would look. Maybe they just attacking us coz we don’t hide behind a mask, like most of them do out of fear of what people will think of them... Really I feel more sorry for the people hiding out of fear of what other people think...

Don't see what's wrong with crazy as long as it's not hearting anyone in the ( possibly dangerous part ), hell if they wasn't crazy people, entertainment would probably be boring. Or crazy idea's that ended up not been crazy that much as people thought it was... I think throughout history it's always been like that?

laugh & go mental, flapping your hand's around, wacking imaginery bugs off you :/

ppl would say im mad cos i act different but i just ignore dem as dey r a bunch of losers.

Luckily I'm just called weird, often fondly. If there's other language, it hasn't reached me yet. Oh, once I was called without chemistry while being kicked out of an artist group I helped found and that hurt for a truly long time. I belong to a church full of kind people and the needs of my children have basically kept me out of most society.

Actually, it's the music people that I hang out with. They're all about as odd as you can possibly get.

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Yeah, music people are great. At the Conservatorium, I could be as obsessive, solitary, little-professorish and stimmy as I liked and people just accepted it as normal. Or if not normal, then not any sort of a problem. Probably something to do with the fact that half the lecturers behaved like that a good deal of the time...

In most other situations, it's a different story.

I've been labelled as different all my life. I never understood why though because I never knew there was such thing as Aspergers, and I didn't see myself as so different. It seemed people could just look at me and see something out of place or missing. In school, it was horrible, even going to grad school, where I thought other writers would accept me finally, I was the oddball out, and I found that troubling. I thought they should have been more like me, but now I realize that's an impossible wish. It's been heartbreaking but now I try to get over it and realize that I'll probably be alone all my life, and that's it, there's nothing else. I can't get over the social things that get in my way. I don't greet people either, as someone mentioned, and I don't have all the nicey-nice replies or conversations at work that I should have. I try to remember them and sometimes if I'm around someone really extroverted, I can imitate them for a bit, but that never lasts. I always forget. I don't even care that people give me the cold shoulder socially. I feel pretty cold all the time anyway, cold and left out. Someone at work said I was out of it, but they don't know how far out. Far from their normal worlds. I wonder what it's like to be them, to be able to make friends without 'the gossip' hanging over my head. I was the victim of the 'she's weird-she's crazy' gossip until I began to have the nerve to talk back to someone I know is laughing at me. I know now that I will never know what it's like to be in the world of normal, but I'm okay with it. Thanks for letting me rant.

ALOT.

I've found it keeps people away...I used to think that was a "bad thing"...until I realized the people it kept away weren't ones I wanted to cultivate a friendship with anyways.

Crazy is like a club though...eventually you attract other "crazy" people and form your own social group.