Is anyone else afraid to be late?

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This morning I was running late for school so my grandmother took me. The whole car ride I kept asking her to let me stay with her until second block, but she couldn't because she had some where to go. I got more nervous the closer we got. When we got to school I just burst into tears and couldn't calm down. I think it freaked her out abit. She kept telling me it would be ok and to stop worring but I couldn't. We ended up sitting in the parking lot for 15 minutes before I finally got out. ::sigh:: I feel dumb.

Wanting to be on time is a responsible, respectful trait to have. I don't like to be late for work or appointments. Try not to kick yourself in the butt for being a responsible person.

maybe wanting to be on time is a responsible trait,
but that's only the social result addressed

real question:
why do you want so desperately to be on time

is it because you desire not to have someone else waiting for you
which is the responsible thing, or
is it because you do not want to be seen to be late -

especially in larger social gatherings like school classes,
being late draws all [reproachful] eyes&attention to you

in which case the question becomes:
do you want to be on time OR are you scared to be late?

ps
the strange thing is, that in the larger gathering scenario
there's is usually very little to worry about - the class WILL
start & proceed (except if you happen to be the teacher),
the match won't be canceled (even if you're the umpire)

usually, it is only in the smaller gettogethers that one's
being on time is all that important socially, because the
function needs your presence to come to pass

I have reconciled myself to always being early for things - more recently I have tried to not get there early, but the anxiety kicks in and I start to worry that I will be late. Even situations where you are supposed to be late (like a party), I hate being late - I have allowed myself to arrive half an hour after the set time (and feel nervous during that half hour wait, feeling like I should be getting there), but still arrive well before anyone else. Luckily I think that the people who do invite me out have got used to me arriving first. I think one reason is that I do always like to arrive first, so I can absorb myself into the situation before other people start arriving. The thought of everyone being there already and having to walk into a crowd of people is always a bit scary.

I even get anxious about starting work late despite the fact that my work has flexible working times and it doesnt really matter when I get there - I get in at 7.30, others get in as late as 10am, but when I wake up in the morning I always feel this pressure to get there ASAP, even if I dont have specific tasks planned that early.

Unbearable. My mother always made sure she was ready a good while before we needed to go anywhere and I think I picked up the bad habit of being upset over being late from her. I think its good to be punctual but not good if you are unavoidably delayed to get so upset by it.

I also am pretty obsessive about being on time. On time means 5 minutes early for me. Unfortunately, my husband doesn't care about appt. times and such and doesn't care if he's late. As a result, we're often waiting for HIM and it ticks me off. LOL!

I think that a big part of me wanting to be on time or early is that I don't want to inconvenience anyone. Never mind that the doctor's office can keep me on hold for 45 minutes waiting to make an appointment and inconvenience me big time. LOL! I also hate going in late for things and drawing attention to myself.

I"m sorry you had such a hard time this morning.

Me me me! It feels funny to admit, but I've had many nightmares about being late over the years...

I hated being late when I was in school. The door be closed and you open it and walk in and everybody is looking at you.

I'm not afraid to be late, although i'd prefer to be on time.

Being on time saves a lot of hassle and unecessary stress. Being late can make your whole entire schedule pointless.

i'd often choose to be absent rather than late. this got me into major trouble with attendence requirements.... though right now i have a teacher who is very relaxed, so i've been able to tolerate being late for his class - and he's been my teacher for the last five mods (five week courses). i was really lucky

I'm always plan to be early because a) i get lost sometimes and want to give myself time for that b) I hate it when you walk in a room and everythings started and everyone looks at you as you come in, (or someone has to get up, interrupt everything and open the door for you) etc...

I hate being late. If I know I'm going to be late I get really nervous and off-balance.

I used to make EVERY appointment, and be EARLY! Everyone ridiculed me for it! The SICK part is that THEY were usually late!

If it's a job or school I make it my point to be early or at least ontime. Unfortunately my "end one task, start the next" problem gets in the way causing me to be late to some of my things.

i hate being late too, especially when it is due to my train being cancelled