I cant seem to go to school..I really need advice

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Right because no one is replying i decided to just sum it up.

I started six form college for beauticians after dropping out of school with good exam results, I spent a year depressed and now I'm struggling to go in to college.

I cudnt cope the 1st term i didn't get on with the class i cudnt bond it was 3 days a week and i just cudnt face it, but some days i go in. Until i restarted the course with another class
this time it was night college, a quiter time with only one small class, i really liked it only 3 hours, but now they changed it to 3 days a week.

1. I cant face it, i have a 15 walk to the tram (subway/tube/whatever) and then a 15 min journey and then a small walk in the shopping centre. It seems so far away from my home my old school was a 15 min walk away.

2. On normal day the college is packed out with loads of classes its 9:30-4, everyone in everyone's space I don't have a set schedule so i walk in not knowing what or which classroom i'm doing.

3. The hours i just cant face the idea of having to stay somewhere for that many hours, i dont have enough faith in my self to do it.

4. I CAN NEVER ORGANISE MY SCHOOL BAG! i do it the night before sometimes to help but i always forget my keys my shoes, my pens, my lunch etc

I don't know what else to do, i like the subject but its not my career forever. But i signed up to set my self a goal of committing to 9-5 like everyone else to gain my independence. In sempter I'm going on a gap year program because its been my dream for years ive only got a few months left until i can pass but at this rate with a looot of cramming

The college is being very supportive, but i think its going to come to a point where ive missed work they have to let me go I only got diagnosed with AS a month ago

Last edited by wob182 on 28 Apr 2008, 5:52 am, edited 2 times in total.

I am sorry I cannot give much advice. I also find myself struggling with attending school.

Make a list.

I'm not joking. I do this for everything myself.

Write a list with all steps that you must do to pack your school bag. Pin it right next to your door or wherever you organise your schoolbag. It must be right there! Organise your bag at the SAME place ever day (if possible!).

Write the list like this:

First point on the list: School stuff
1. Monday: put X books in bag
2. Monday: put Y papers in bag
3. Monday: put pens in bag
4. Tuesday: put Z books in bag

...and so on for each day.

Second point on the list: Lunch
1. make lunch
2. put lunch into the bag

Get how I mean it?

I'm either a severe case of non-attentive autism or have AD(H)D. I forget things in a matter of seconds. I manage to go outside without my shoes on.

The lists help me to do what I must. I force myself to look at the lists after each point, point 1, 2, 3 to make absolutely sure. That's annoying and hard, but it pays.

After I use lists for some time, I really manage to follow that plan without looking at the list any more.

Always take time to read the list! Never rush.

Pin a paper that says "GET YOUR KEYS" in flaming red letters to your front door. Right at eye-level.

You probably won't 'see' it every time (I wouldn't) if you're any bit ADHD-like/day-dreaming AS/whatever! But it serves as another reminder if you 'see' it = bigger chance that you notice that you must grab your keys before you leave.

aww thanx i've just got a whiteboard to remind me to do thing everyday. I do have ADD as well so i'm not really sure how my ADD effects me, I think it makes me day dream a lot :S

Can you maybe try planning out in your head exactly where you will go and how you will do it. Maybe writing out an exact schedule starting with the ride in, where you end up, the route you will walk, what building, the times. If it's different on different days, have one for each day? Would that make it less overwhelming if you are just following your schedule?

i really dont know what the scedule is because we have no time table and it seems only the teachers know what we are ment to be doing when we get there we're ment to go with the flow...i really cudnt predict what we are ment to do on each day, i just no to prepare for either practical or studying

can you candidly talk to one of the teachers about your difficulties?

Doesn't sound like a good school to me, I'd have trouble with it myself, and I am pretty high functioning (can pass for normal in some situations, doesn't mean I am, as people are quick to point out). Frankly, I have never heard of a school that was like that. I went to a state university for a couple of years, and no, it wasn't easy, and probably wasn't the best place for me, but there was at least a measure of predictibility in that I knew when my classes were and what I would be studying each day. I am wondering, is this some kind of experimental school?

I have a job that sounds a lot like your school, I never know from day to day what is going to be thrown at me, and I can have everything all nicely organized as far as time goes and then the next minute the you-know-what hits the fan and it all goes to you-know-where. Today was one of those days. The only way I can even hope to keep my sanity is to have a color-coded master list of my known, scheduled assignments and when each is due, and post it in a prominent area in my cubicle. I don't know anyone else at work who does it but I don't care. If I did not do it, I would be hopelessly lost. So that is my suggestion, make lists. But do it at a time when you are not stressed out for time and can think about things.

I make lists for everything... for example this mroning my list said.

pack lunch
put track clothes in school bag
-shorts
-shirt
-shoes
-sprts bra
-socks
soccer stuff
-cleats
-shin pads
-socks
call Kristie at lunch to some pick me up after school

and so on and so on...
my lists literally have everthing i need to do that day or i will forget to do it... it works though