How calculating vs. spontaneous are you?

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Are you more the kind of person who evaluates convenience before talking / acting or more the kind that says what they mean / acts as they feel?

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I tend to think before I act, at least in the written part of my life. Of course, no one is perfect. In terms of speech, I say as little as possible, unless I am very comfortable with the person I am speaking with. Trust no one.

In terms of speaking, I usually think before I talk, unless I'm really mad and I really know who I'm talking to.

But my life? I just wing it. Never sure where I'm getting my next meal, cause I caint seem to hold a job for more than a couple months. So, I'm very spontaneus in that manner.

Not only think before speaking, often practice an entire conversation from all sides beforehand. And still internally edit even while speaking...

I lack spontaneity in speech. I generally think everything through before I open my mouth.

On the other hand I hate planning things more than a day or two out. I prefer to live in the moment if at all possible.

The replies so far don't gibe with what I thought you meant, but I'll answer according to what I thought you meant.

My natural inclination is to be honest and direct, but it's led to frustration or trouble in the past. So, I sometimes try to estimate whether I'll be listened to or if I'll offend somebody in a bad way. My estimations aren't always accurate, but I basically just make it my goal to be understood and hopefully get what I want. In terms of actions, I try not to let outside matters interfere with what I want to do, although of course I consider the realizability of whatever I want.

Part of my social awkwardness is not always knowing when its best for me to shut my mouth about certain things to people (personal stuff to strangers or folks I've met recently, for example) so no I guess I'm not very calculating verbally.

Spontaneous? How? I can't do anything without first deciding to do it then working out how to do it.

Before I say something, I usually try to determine whether it will offend somebody or get me really strange looks; if it will, most of the time I won't say it. If I'm not sure, most of the time I won't say it.

I may say something weird every now and then, but most everything for me is calculated to an annoying extent.

I'm not spontaneous at all. In fact, I have mentally scripted responses that I use in most conversations. However, every response I give IS exactly how I feel. I just make sure I'm about to say it right, first. I've offended so many people by accident that I now carefully consider everything I say long before I say it. If I'm talking to someone who throws me a curveball conversationally, I have to pause for a moment or two to think of a proper response that won't offend. Even so, I still get tripped up because it's very hard for me to tell 'how' others would want me to reply. Having a conversation with someone is like walking through a field full of landmines - sooner or later I KNOW I'm going to say something to piss someone else off and they'll explode.


Oddly enough, this is why I like message boards as opposed to live chat rooms. Chat rooms are too frenetic for me and I can't keep up.

when it comes to matters of the heart, I am more spontaneous,
when it comes to paybacks, I take my time, sometimes years, to plan things out and execute any actions to be taken.

I sometimes feel like this too and sometimes it happens that people get upset.

I am certainly more careful now with what I say, I don't plan ahead or anything like that, but when I am with people I try very hard now to watch for signs I have read in books. What I don't know is whether I am getting it or misreading them, so not so helpful really. I say this because people often misunderstand my actions and thoughts.

Overall, I tend towards being spontaneous. This can be a problem when I blurt something out and its stops a conversation.

I lean very much towards calculating. I may sometimes seem spontaneous, but that is just a habitual "scripted" response.