Do you restrain/censor yourself?

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I used to not complain about a lot of things like emotional pain and being misunderstood, because I didn't want to be seen as a wimp who was complaining about nothing and nobody would take me seriously. Sometimes later I would find out that I could have got help for it, that I WOULD have been taken seriously, if only I'd opened my mouth and told someone about it.

I kept my mouth shut about my feelings and complaints my whole entire life. I would just bottle everything up and complian about nothing. It has really taken its toll on me through the years.

But then I got to the point where I couldn't hold it all in any more. I had worn away my mental and emotional resolve. So I started to let out the things that were bothering me. I decide to start talking to people and family about my problems. And you know what I get? They tell me "Stop being so whiny." "Stop bellyaching about it."

Which is great, you know. I spend the first 30-of years of my life trying hard to not be a burden on anyone. And the second I start letting my troubles be known, I'm told to stop being a baby about it.

Yeah. Thanks. That's what I get for being open and honest about my feelings for once.

Keep your chin up Ana54!!

Not as much as I would like. Sometimes my temper won't allow it.

normally I don't always say what I mean so I don't seem rude to other people, like if someones having an argument or if people are complaining about something, it will get on my nerves and I'll think of something to put them in their place, but I don't say them because i'm afaird if I do, that they will just dismiss me with some remark or ignore me altogether.

When I did say something, no one believed me and said I was being annoying/overacting.

I don't think that I've learned that skill, yet.

I'm too blunt at times... of course I'm taken the wrong way. I should censer myself though, I just fear of shutting up completely & that wouldn't be good either, it took me a long time to open up in the first place.

Before I realised my true Aspergian nature, I used to censor my behaviour in order to fit in with society (but still had outbursts now and then). Since diagnosis, I am both trying to be myself and trying to be more conscious of my behaviour in order to be more considerate of others. For example, trying to make small-talk with my work colleagues and trying not to be super-critical (which I am prone to!).

I stop myself from cursing; every second word would be a curse if I spoke how my "inner-voice" speaks.

I say what I think without caring how blunt or socially inappropriate I am otherwise (I do fear upsetting my bestest friend however, but I still don't control what I say).

I censor myself in respect for others, but I don't swear that much anyway. I do however say some pretty dirty things.

yeah; I do it all the time so people don't ostracise me for having weird opinions or thinking weird things. I try to avoid saying things which aren't mainstream so people will leave me alone. I appear to have absolutely no emotions in public, and even in private, those I express tend to be a bit extreme. I don't know how to explain what I feel, and that seems to bother my parents a lot. I also swear a lot under my breath because a lot of things upset me; I get ticked off very easily. I can stop myself from doing things to other people but I think that one day something bad is going to happen and I won't be able to stop myself. My mum says I act like a drug addict because I go from one extreme to another.

I would like to be able to restrain my cursing and anger in general. I actually do work at it, just not always successfully. At least on this board, since I am typing I am going to totally refrain from cursing, as per the rules, and make a point of thinking about any replies before I post on any threads that have the potential to get heated.