Not having a "good reason"

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Does anybody ever just want or need things to be a certain way and not know why? Not that you need it for comfort, or to be organized, or anything... just needing to have or do things a certain way without being able to identify a reason?
Alternatively, do you have a reason but not want to share it with anyone else for whatever reason (embarrassment, fear, etc.)?

For example, a friend and I cycled to a store for dinner ingredients. One of us had to stay with the bikes, and though I had a better idea of what we needed and he was the bigger and stronger of us (in case anyone was going to try anything; it wasn't a good neighborhood), I just had to stay at the doors with the bikes while sending him to do the actual shopping. I didn't know why (he got upset that I couldn't give him a good reason). I just did.

Yes. For instance my partner was frying some sausages the other day and when he was done frying them and getting ready to get them out of the pan, i totally freaked out cause he was gonna stick a fork in them. I told him it bothered me but i guess he didnt understand the problem. I just really didnt want holes in them, im like this with a lot of stuff. People tend to look at me like im totally crazy whenever something like this comes up.

Yep... happens all the time... I've found it is a good idea to listen to those little voices that say things have to be this way. Either that or suffer a metldown... make your choice.

My friends still look at me askew but let it go when I do something and say I don't know why it just has to be this way.

I do, but it's just OCD.

I want my BF to eat his chips in a certain way so they don't make a crunching sound. Just put the chip all the way in your mouth and close it before biting down. Not hard to do, but after I asked him, he looked at me like I was nuts. The sound of it puts me over the edge and I have to leave the room. He doesn't get it at all and I don't know how to explain how something he sees as trivial is totally important to me.

Everybody has their little peccadilloes, huh? But you can't expect people to change certain behaviours if they don't realize they are irritating the other person. Unless they're telepathic, no one will have a clue.

Ignorance is not a pretext but is it rather a justification?

Personally I am not able to determine a person's extreme nut allergy just by looking at him. I'd have to ask.

My food can't touch, except in rare cases (for example, meat and potatoes that both have gravy on them are allowed). I'm slowly getting better at it...the other day my GF's step-dad served us Swiss steak, potatoes, and corn...the meat and potatoes was fine, but I had to force myself to eat the gravy soaked corn (and there weren't any clean spots on the plate to try to seperate them) =/

A pretty huge step forward for me, I think, but I'd still prefer to just not have them touch. I don't know how everyone else can just pile everything together and eat it. The "it all goes to the same place" excuse doesn't do anything for me.

My thing is I don't know why I have to be the one to cave and "put up" with a behavior that drives me crazy. I don't have an explanation as to why it does, it just does. I have said over and over to not do it, but he doesn't see a good reason if I can't give him one. I now just leave the room until he's done eating them.

If it's a stranger doing it, I'm not going to say anything (unless it's REALLY bad) but most people I know realize I have my quirks and do humor me with doing as I ask.

Me too, but "KMart sucks". We can change!

Regards,

Yes.If there's a sudden change of plans on a trip i'm like.

"can't we just do it the way that was lanned?"

and anxiety.