Am I weird?

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I have aspergers but I feel that social interaction is very important. Even if we have trouble with interacting socially. I think that you shouldn't let your differences bother you and to try your best. Maybe, it's me. I personally feel very lonely when I'm by myself for a long period of time. Does anyone else feel this way while still being an aspie?

You're not wierd! Interests help to distract, etc... They are almost like a narcotic. Frankly, I would LOVE to be more social, but I usually just CAN'T.

Maybe not weird, but a butt kisser. You should treat your company as a valued privilege, evaluating large numbers of people until you find those that deserve your company.

I completely agree with you. I suck at meeting new people, and yet I very much want to meet everyone i can. It's rough, but luckily i have a few friends that are very outgoing and so that helps.
I can really only meet people when they initiate it. They have to talk to me and find something that i'm interested in. Sometimes i think i come off as a little cold though, but I'm trying to work on that.
I HATE being alone. I can't stand being in an empty house, its so much better if one of my roommates are around, even if we're not doing anything.

No.

That question should be completely irrelevant here anyways.

You are socially impaired, it doesn't mean you can't socialize. You just 1-3 step from social normaility otherwise perfect.

Socializing on internet doesn't count as much as if you were talking to stranger in broad daylight.

I get lonely sometimes, but praying usually helps.

I'm gonna sound like a total geek here and make a totally obscure reference:

Sometimes I feel like a character in the computer game "the Sims 2". When a Sim doesn't get any social interaction for a long period of time, or if they perform a social interaction that other Sims perceive as inappropriate, the offending Sim's Social level will decrease. I feel as if, when I am alone for long periods of time, my Social Level will decrease rapidly and I'll be in danger of seeing the dreaded Social Bunny.

Um. I think that was seriously the most Aspie thing I've ever said.

Let me think......yes.

No man is an island.

I definitely feel the same way. Even though I'm awkward and sometimes I like to be alone, I love socializing! I'm pretty social nowadays, and communicating with others is important. I totally get it.

Are you being sarcastic?



Oh my god, I've had that thought so many times! I feel the exact same way.

I've thought exactly that! I also notice the conversation going through the same few topics over and over, and the silly gestures and weird intonation patterns in the background the whole time, and the people gaining and losing friendship points with each other.

I've commented on this mid-conversation a few times, and it's gotten me some of my strangest looks.. I guess it is odd to say that real life reminds me of something intended to simulate real life!

No, you're not weird. I agree with you that social interaction is important, and I also feel lonely when I'm by myself for a long period of time. I also know from experience that once I've gotten to know most of a particular person's mannerisms, and I'm absolutely sure they want to be around me, I can find their presence rewarding and fun instead of incredibly draining. That makes the chore of getting to that point in a relationship mostly worth it. So yeah, I agree that you should try your best.

But letting my differences bother me? Yeah, I do that. To me, that feels healthy; otherwise I'd just feel like I was in denial, or just a defective model NT. Being aware of my differences, and letting them get to me, can help me to be aware of and stand up for what I need in relationships...yet another thing that helps them to be less draining.

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I don't think you're weird.

I feel the exact same way. I have felt very lonely in the last couple of months.