reaction to touch?

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How did you reacte to touch as a child? Do aspies generally have trouble with someone trying to touch them? (not intimately)

Hated it. Screeched.

I still hate it. But I no longer screech.

I'm told that even as a tiny baby I would rear away from physical closeness instead of snuggling in the way most babies have an instinct to do. Growing up, I was very touch shy and never initiated hugs. I liked my mother to hug me because I knew intellectually that it was a sign of affection, but I tended to go rigid because somehow it was strange to me and I never knew how to respond or what to do with my hands.

It's taken a long time for me to get to the point where I can initiate physical contact with other people and actually enjoy it, and to come across as normal when I do so. But even now, I have to be prepared for it. I can't handle someone coming up and patting me on the back, say, without telling me they're going to do it first and giving me time to adjust to the idea.

I avoided it at all costs. If someone did it anyway, I felt uncomfortable and got mad at whoever touched me. I don't mind it anymore, not sure why my attitude towards it changed. Maybe I just got used to it.

I was told that even as an infant I never wanted to be picked up. However, I remember longing to be hugged as a child so i'm not sure how much of that is real and how much is my mom's psychotic behavior.

As an adult there are only select people I'll let touch me. Actually only three I like - my bf and his parents. I let the kids I teach hug me but I'm usually grossed out by it because all I can think of is runny noses, not washing hands, etc. Therefor I usually don't hug them back

My bf and I cuddle for hours and hours and hourse straight. we both love it.

there is no one in my family that i want touching me for any reason and I don't want strangers touching me

For the most part when someone i don't like tries to hug me I stand stock still and pull away my upper body as best i can. I used to look away as well but i had a grandma who would kiss me on the ear when i did that and that was a million times worse

One person, after I presented in a PAINFULLY OBVIOUS way that I disliked the idea, went OUT OF HIS WAY for NO REASON to touch me! I felt like quickly touching his chin with just the back of the upper phalanges of my right hand, if you get my meaning! I was ANGRY!

If I DID do that, he could have died since he was somewhat tall, off balance from leaning to touch me, and being somewhat near a cement wall.

It is relatively rare that I am touched or touch anyone else. Some people encounter such situations more in one hour than I do in a YEAR!

I'd freeze and meltdown in a catatonic sort of way (implode instead of explode). Sometimes I'd squirm away.

I don't remember if I felt a longing for it as a kid, but did at some point -- but that didn't change how overloading it was/is to experience. I've always figured with someone understanding and "safe" enough I could probably to find a way to experience the positive part without the overloading bad part. (Have yet to meet any such person, but maybe someday.)

I still shake when people hug me, though from a select few people, the 'goodness' outweighs the overloading-ness. (Trouble is, the 'safe' people tend to be the considerate ones who let go when they feel the shaking. )

I didn't like to be touched in a "controling way"...held. I still only like it for short periods but I like having some physical contact, resting my hand on them. There are still some areas...like the back of my neck, that are just to sensitive but I love a hard back "beating".

I only like to be touched when it is how I choose and I am expecting it. For example, I like massages, but that is about it.

Never wanted people touching me. I always hated being hugged, it was foreign to me. I have gotten better over time, but still don't feel like hugging someone is something that comes naturally.

My mother said I would get mad when they hug me. I would squirm to try and get away, I would pull away. Sometimes my body be stiff. But I loved being rubbed and I loved to be cuddled. I can remember kids touching me and I hated it. Not because it hurt but because I just didn't want to be touched by random kids. I would scream at them. Don't normal kids hate being touched too? I can remember kids telling me not to touch them.

Sometimes I still don't like to be touched. It depends on what mood I'm in, how I'm feeling, same with cuddling.

I don't have this issue.

I hate being touched by people I don't know well.

I still squim when my mom would try and touch me when I was a child.

I have got better about this whole hugging thing