Sarcasm sucks!

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When someone makes a sarcastic comment it is usually lost on me, I work for a company called WDS and I mostly serve samples of food for people to try and buy but whenever I serve deserts I will sometimes get comments like, "Your a terrible person." or "You are so evil." Now at the time I can't understand why they are saying such things to me and I feel it is just cruel. I can see later that it was just because the deserts are bad for you but taste so good and people can't resist grabbing them but at the time it just seems so mean.

Oh no, now I forgot what I was gonna say next. Normally I ask questions for an open discussion but can't think of anything right now, maybe I was just gonna make this as a statement. Sarcasm sucks!

P.S. Isn't the point of eating food to get nourishment? I mean really, don't eat it if you know it isn't healthy.
Mind over matter, if you don't mind it doesn't matter.

Last edited by sethzack on 31 Dec 2008, 12:32 am, edited 1 time in total.

Laugh and tell them you own stock in a liposuction clinic! Then ask if they want another sample.

I'm pretty sure that would get me fired, besides not all of them are overweight.
wait... are you being sarcastic?

*Shrug* Just try to go with the flow.

that's kind of funny because i can probably detect more sarcasm than every person on earth put together, i'm practically made out of the stuff

Going with the flow is against who I am, I won't change myself for anyone unless I absolutely have to like controlling myself at work... for the most part at least.



Well I bet you can't do the same hand-eye coordinated things I can so I think we're even.

it was his way of suggesting you lighten up about the teasing you get at work. That is how I see it, not sarcasm, that hurts, but teasing. Now, I know that teasing can hurt too, but look at it from their point of view. The people that CAN resist your yummy desserts are doing so, you never meet them.

So the people that are tempted by your sweet treats chose to 'blame' you for succumbing to your temptation. Its a game to them, don't take it seriously. They will eat it anyway.

In the social situation you find your self in (as the HOST) when they say 'you terrible man!' they are looking for you to give them permission for them to eat it! You will find they warm right up to you when you say "aw. . you know you want to" or "when we cut it, the calories leaked right out of them!" or some such nonsense so they can feel good about eating it as well as it just tasting good.
Good luck!

Merle

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Yeah, I was being sarcastic back. See, they say you're evil cuz you're offering them something that will make them fat. You would be responding that that's because it's in your interest to make them fat. Then you would offer more of the stuff that will make them fat - it's a joke I think most NTs would get.

specially if you smiled while you said it. Remember to agree with them that you are a terrible person. . .it shows you are in on the joke.

Merle

I wouldn't mess around with trading barbs as it's too hard to be sure how they will react, just perfect the standard sales practices of smiling and being polite. You can have ordinary, reusable phrases to respond to this very common behavior you've noticed, now that you understand it's just more of the dull, disposable talk that NTs exchange in order to bond in some fashion. They say more things that mean nothing simply for the purpose of cementing unity. I understand more of that kind of interaction than you do, I believe, but I do not enjoy it, nor do I naturally and automatically produce such phrases myself. I have gleaned that they are just being flip when they say it though. But how they can embarrass you when they do it!

But as I said, you do know now that it one of their impersonal phrases, and that they are really saying it in response to the dessert more than they are to you. A response I would suggest, that might resonate with some NTs, is, "Don't blame me, I'm just following orders." Not everyone would get it, mind you, because I came up with it and most of my quips get blank stares, but if you can get a light tone to your voice and say it with a smile, it really doesn't matter if you say more than, "Enjoy," or, "Please try one." It is by no means necessary to get into a babbling conversation, and really it is better to be pleasant but professional.

I hate sarcasm simply because it's the lowest form of wit.

Actually, now that I think about it, IrishWhistle is right - the customer might want to continue the joking around, and you would be at a loss if you don't understand sarcasm. I realize I had started leading you into a potential minefield - sorry about that.

Thanks for all the replies but the problem isn't whether or not I know they are joking it's not reacting fast enough, realising it's a joke and telling them something appropriate related in the same context. That I will have to learn on my own.

...Okay, then. I don't see how it'd change you much, if at all.
Maybe I'm not using the "go with the flow" saying right.
What I meant is.... just compleatly ignore it. Like it didn't happen.
Am I making sense? I don't know.

Miscommunication either way, I understand now. I thought you meant comform to society and be like neurotypicals, for instance if I was a salmon and everyone else was swimming upstream I would think it was stupid and do my own thing.
(Sorry for the salmon reference but I'm an Alaskan)

It's all good.
But no, definitly didn't mean "go be NT", lol. I tried that for a while, and it sucked.