My dad acsept my aspergers, pretends he acsept it, he doesnt

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I get the feeling my dad has said yes i've got aspergers but wont ascept how big it is, or how life impacting it is.

Its properly the age old story he's met an guy with aspergers who appears worst because this guy showed his aspergers in more aggressive or obvious ways. At first i thought he'd had acspeted it coz he didnt show any emotion no reaction at all when he was with me at my diagnoses, i cried he didnt do anything. He just spent the whole time saying "you've got it mild" "Your ex was worst ur not like him"

It didnt occur to me, he doesnt quite get it until recently.
He's read the tony atwood book and thats it he thinks he knows all he needs to know thats it.

We had to fill out a medical form and he woudnt let me put i have aspergers on it because he said when we go see a difrent phycoligis for ADD medication she might think it only ADD

OMG I HAVE ASPERGERS ITS BEEN PROPER DIGNOSES GET IT INTO YOUR HEAD!! (I want to scream at him)

he dismisses everything i tell him i have or other effects of AS as being hypercontreeact. He says i event problems that arnt there.
I dont go looking for problems ! I look for reasons for my problems

ahhh its soo frustrating! I have no support now i only got diagnoses in march

I gather this is really common. You have to understand, your family members grew up with you. They know everything there is to know about you, how you developed, they watched you become the person you are today. If you tell them you're not normal, they'll reject the concept. As far as they are concerned, you have become a template in their mind, and everything you do will seem perfectly normal to them. When you say you have a condition that changes the way you behave, it's natural for them to understand, but question the extent.

He's not trying to hurt you or anything, he just can't see aspergers for the trees.

I suppose people that don't have it just simply can't relate to it and fully understand it. Maybe he really is trying, and maybe he just wants you to feel normal and not feel like you're different. He's probably having a hard time adjusting to the reality of what you have.

I know but I know well ive been told 98% one of my parents or both have it I wunder which one. I think he's scared coz he knows it too that, he doesn't want to think about the possibly its very likely he might have it.

thats a shame your Dad feels like that but a typical reaction nonetheless - hope things get better for you soon

My father didn't accept that I was Aspergian either.

But he is dead now, so I don't give a toss.



Fact is, the monumental normality ego won't let them view it as a good thing. More often than not, the average person... including mundie parents... will tend to perceive it as some sort of disease (unless they get to know better), and will instantly go into denial about it, wanting to believe that you're just the same as everyone else (which society perceives wrongly as superior).

My mother, on the flipside, was the first one to suggest I had it after seeing a TV documentary about it.
Of course years later, I saw in retrospect that my mother herself seems to show at least SOME signs of spectrum behaviour, so I clearly got the bulk of it from her. Besides... my mother is also the one responsible for my being so anti-normal, since she was very much opposed to my doing or being "like everyone else", and was very particular about my speaking properly and generally coming across as better than the "common / stupid people". She could have gone about it differently... but since I've always had a high IQ, she was convinced that I should make use of it by aspiring to be better than everyone else who wasn't so smart. It really did shape my life that way.

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