UndercoverAlien wrote:
first i tought i might have overreact with this topic but seems like jealousy is common with aspies
I think everybody's jealous when it comes to sexual partners - to a greater or lesser extent. I had a terrible time with it when I was younger, mostly because I tried to repress it. That really does turn it into a monster, trust me! I learned to just make myself known, so my current partner knew about it in some detail before we slept together. I was terrified to do that for years, always thinking nobody would want me if they knew how I felt. Some of it centres around women's revealing clothes, and I think part of it is cultural, because nice girls never used to expose their sexy bits like they do today. And judging by some of the comments I've heard from men (when they think the girls aren't there) about exposed female flesh, it's almost enough to make a Muslim of me!
I'm still undecided about how close a partner should get to other potential sexual rivals. There seem to be some unwritten rules there.
Envy feels qualitatively different to me. I can feel envious of others who have what I want to have, but it only angers me when I think they've got it by unfair means. Often it's hard to find out. Maybe one well-paid person deserves a bit more for good, diligent service to a socially worthy cause. Another rich person by comparison might just be an overpaid, legitimised thief. In a world with limited resources and terrible poverty, I'd support more wealth redistribution than our governments seem to want. I try not to hate rich individuals, unless they're pushing a right-wing agenda by the use of propaganda and other dirty tricks.